Author: Maude

The Importance of Belief and Intention in Relationships Part I: Maude

We were recently asked during a podcast interview what factors are important to starting a new kind of relationship, one in which peace reigns and fighting and arguments are absent.
Great question, and our first answer is always that you have to be sure that your core values match, both in each other’s actions and words.
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You Can’t Talk and Listen at the Same Time

We’re often asked how we write our blogs together. We create two separate drafts and then merge them. If they’re complementary, we interleave them; if they’re saying the same thing, we blend them. But sometimes they’re both so distinct that we offer both voices.
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Fun Valentine Contest — Create a Relationship Quote

Here’s our Valentine invitation: be creative!
Send us an original relationship quote for this photo. The winner will receive a signed print copy of our book “How Two: Have a Successful Relationship” and the entry will be featured in our newsletter and social media.
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How to Avoid Power Struggles in Your Relationship

I’ve been thinking quite a lot about the discussions we’ve had recently concerning power struggles within a relationship. We’ve been talking about John Gottman’s book “Why Marriages Succeed or Fail“. He observed many couples in terms of their conflicts and issues with power.
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Relationship Reading Corner

Here are some writings on little white lies. There are lots of different view on this issue. What do you think? Leave a comment.
White Lies: This cover the types of white lies, the reasons for them, their impact, and how to detect white lies.
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Relationship Reading Corner

Here are some writings on honesty in relationships. Although we may not agree with everything they say, we think they all have something to offer.
 
Honesty Can Make or Break a Relationship
Radical Honesty for a Healthy Marriage
How To Be Honest: Seven Tips
 
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Complete Honesty – How Important Is It?

The phrase “complete honesty” brings up many issues immediately. What does it mean? Are little white lies allowed? Does it do more harm than good?
In our experience, the answer is clear. Complete honesty is one of the basic foundations of every successful relationship.
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Do You Want this Relationship to Work? Intention Is a Key to Success

An important element in accepting your partner and finding a loving connection is your intention. You have to have the intention to find peaceful harmonious ways of being together, and this has to be something that is a guiding principle and a true value to you.
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Can This Relationship Work? Learn More About the Spectrum of Acceptance

In our last blogs we’ve been talking about the Spectrum of Acceptance and Core Values which lie at one end of the spectrum.
Next on the spectrum are the areas of middle ground. These are places of divergence between you and your partner that have the potential of resolution.
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Core Values and The Spectrum of Acceptance

Along with a discussion of core values, it is important to talk about The Spectrum of Acceptance. When we talk about successful relationships, we describe actions and values as lying along a spectrum. At one end of this spectrum are your deal breakers; areas of meaning and value that you consider to be core to your life.
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