Author: Phil and Maude

Successful Relationships Reading Corner

In this week’s blog, we wrote about intimacy in a relationship. Here are some accompanying articles. The first is unusually insightful about the structure of relationships.
Intimacy: The Art of Relationships This is a long but really impressive article on relationships; we encourage you to read it in its entirety.
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Successful Relationships Reading Corner

In this week’s blog, we write about the myth that differences cause problems in a relationship. Here are some articles that also discuss this topic.
How the Differences in Your Relationship Can Be Gifts “It’s in our nature as humans to gravitate towards those who have interests similar to our own.
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The Myth of Difference Causing Problems in a Relationship

For the last several weeks we have been writing about the popular myths of work and compromise concerning relationships.
Here are some of the types of statements even the most positive articles put forth:

“Our individual differences make friction between people we care about, inevitable.”
“The bad news is that some degree of effort and agony is inevitable in most relationships.”
“Relationships are hard work.
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In this week’s blog, we say that compromise is not the way to success in relationships. Here are some articles about that, and our May 31, 2017 Reading Corner links on reaching mutual solutions also cover the topic of not compromising.
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Compromise is Not the Way to Success in Relationships

Everybody copies each other. People take their cues for how to behave from all around, like a flock of birds that wheel in formation. It’s hard to accept this; everyone has a sense of uniqueness and independence, yet people constantly watch and copy each other.
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In this week’s blog, we say that having to work hard in a relationship is a myth. A funny thing happened when we looked for links. Almost all of the articles described the “myth” as being the other way around: that relationships actually do need work.
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Do You Have to Work Hard in a Relationship?

Since words truly have power, we have decided it’s time to tackle some of the misleading words we are inundated with concerning relationships. We are bombarded with information that tells us relationships inevitably have conflict, that we have to work hard in a relationship and that compromise is the path to success.
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In this week’s blog, we wrote about how to stay connected by accepting your partner. These links give a variety of thoughts about this topic.
Marriage Help: Do You Accept Or Tolerate Your Partner? “When your partner tolerates you (or, more accurately, tolerates something about you), s/he has to continuously expend energy in order to suppress feelings of judgment and criticism.
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How to Stay Connected by Accepting Your Partner

We’ve had a very busy week. Maude had mid-month reports and a flood of uncommon work issues, and Phil took on some programming work, which for him is all-consuming. But we noticed last night that through it all, none of this affected our connection with each other; we didn’t withdraw into ourselves or snap at each other.
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In this week’s blog, we wrote about how to handle anger in your relationship. These links discuss how to deal with both your anger and that of your partner.
Anger in Relationships: Owning Yours, Softening Your Partner’s “Anger is not a sign that your relationship is doomed to fail.
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