Author: Phil and Maude

Reframe Your Feelings and Change Your Relationship

A professor noticed that anxiety and excitement have several physiological markers in common, so she recruited people to sing karaoke, and quelled their anxiety by having them say “I am excited.” This did not change the anxiety, but it did change how the people were able to act.
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Successful Relationships Reading Corner

In this week’s blog, we wrote about the paradox of union and separateness in a relationship. Here are some excellent articles on this subject.
The Central Paradox of Love: Esther Perel on Reconciling the Closeness Needed for Intimacy with the Psychological Distance That Fuels Desire “How to live with those paradoxes, rather than succumbing to the self-defeating urge to treat them as problems to be solved, is what Belgian psychotherapist and writer Esther Perel explores in Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence (public library).
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The Paradox of Union and Separateness in a Relationship

Phil: I want to write about how we create these blogs because it illuminates the way we are together.
We usually talk about topics until one appears and feels fruitful, explore it some, then go off and write separately. When we come together again, we may amalgamate our different voices, interleave our different aspects, or take one as the framework and polish it, but whatever way we end up writing, one thing is certain: that we each agree with what the other has written, even though it may be in a different voice.
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In this week’s blog, we wrote about honesty in your relationship, and we’ve found some great articles on this topic.
Love and honesty: what we hide and why we lie “I want to talk about honesty and dishonesty and how it comes into play in relationships….
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What is True Honesty in Your Relationship?

Phil loves reading advice columns and sharing whether or not he thinks they have offered insights. In a recent column, a woman described a situation where her husband had asked her a question casually in the course of another discussion. She avoided the issue.
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In this week’s blog, we asked how do differences in your relationship strengthen it? Here are some other articles covering aspects of that.
Relationship advice: five experts reveal the secrets to long-term love “One of the more ridiculous myths about “true love” is the idea of the soulmate – that there is someone out there who is your perfect match.
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How Do Differences in Your Relationship Strengthen It?

To be in a successful relationship, it is very helpful to know and be comfortable with yourself.
We all try to fit in with each other, just as the birds in a flock act together. We make ourselves more attractive to other people by how we dress, speak, behave and react.
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Five FREE Days of “How Two: Have a Successful Relationship”

We are pleased to offer the ebook for “How Two: Have a Successful Relationship” for FREE today 10/19 through 10/23 midnight Pacific time.
This is a wonderful opportunity for you to read the full details of Our Process as summarized in last week’s blog.
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Successful Relationships Reading Corner

In this week’s blog, we write about the fundamental requirement for finding mutual decisions and solving problems in relationships. These links are about how couples can deal with relationship problems.
Equal Partnerships: What Do They Really Consist Of? “When you see some couples that seem happier, more balanced and equitable than others, do you ever wonder: What do they know that I don’t?
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Successful Relationships Reading Corner

In this week’s blog, we write about what peace in a relationship is like; here are some other peoples’ thoughts on this subject.
5 Top Tips to Enhance Relationships and Find Inner Peace “We all have challenges in our relationships at some time or other.
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