Author: Phil

How to Reach Union in Your Relationship

This is Phil, and I’m writing this week because Maude is attending a conference. I’m going to end up talking about relationships, but let’s start by talking about identity. I know what you’ll say. You’ll give your name and your address and whether you’re married and where you work and you’ll point at your skin as the boundary between you and the world, and that’s that.
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The Importance of Belief and Intention in Relationships Part II: Phil

We were recently interviewed by Michael and Jacqueline for The Intimacy Connection Talk Show. One of the topics that came up was belief and intention. Maude wrote about this last week in her own voice, and this week, it’s me. We hope this stereo signal adds depth to the subject.
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Phil and Maude’s Friday Feature: Tina Tessina and Riley Smith

Maude and I know from our direct experience that relationships without conflict are possible. This is an uncommon position to take, and many people are doubtful, so it is a pleasure to find similar writings.
I came across “How to Be a Couple and Still Be Free” by Tina Tessina and Riley Smith in our local library, and was delighted to find a sympathetic view.
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Successful Relationships Reading Corner

This week’s blog was on what you can take away from a breakup in order to improve your next relationship. We hope you enjoy these.
Breakups and new relationships offer opportunities to break old habits “New relationships also offer the opportunity to go down a different path and this is much easier to do when you have the self-awareness that comes with being willing to learn from the insights gained from your prior relationships.
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Knowing Yourself Helps You Have a Successful Relationship

Maude is away this weekend being Nana (and loving it!), so I’m flying solo in this week’s blog. Time and time again we describe our relationship as peaceful and free of conflict and hear “That’s nice for you, but…,” so I’d like to address that here.
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Do You Fight About the Little Things in Your Relationship? Or Which Way Does the Toilet Paper Go?

We wrote last week about core values and how they are fundamental to a successful relationship. This week, we want to talk about how to handle the small things in life, like which way the toilet roll goes or the best route to drive to the store.
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Commitment

I’ve spent a lifetime in short term relationships. They’ve had a life expectancy of three years. Yet Tuesday is my 8th wedding anniversary. What explanation do I have?
On our second date, I told Maude of my relationship history, and her response was to think “But they weren’t me.” So was she right, or did I change?
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Are Little White Lies Really Little?

White lies. They’re the lubricant of human interactions. “What an adorable baby!” “No, of course I don’t mind.” “I must have missed your email.” We tell them to make others feel better or to make us look better.
They’re seen as beneficial in close relationships, too, for the same reasons, but there’s a price to be paid for that.
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Relationship Reading Corner

We pick out and share with you various articles and blogs on relationships written by a wide variety of authors in the field.
Here are our picks for the Reading Corner for this week:

Relationships Improve When You Start With You

Can Laughter Make Us Better at Relationships?
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Do You Want to Have a Good Relationship?

Do you want to have a good relationship? Of course everybody says yes. But do you intend to have a good relationship? What does that even mean?
It has to do with how you perceive a relationship ought to be, and whether you try to move in that direction at all times.
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