Category: Core Values

Successful Relationships Reading Corner

In this week’s blog we wrote about the heart of the matter – having a peaceful relationship. These articles look at the difference between partnership and competitive behavior.
Are You Competing in Your Relationship? “One of the cardinal rules of marriage is to recognize that you and your spouse are on the same team; at least you should be.
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The Heart of the Matter

The other week we quoted Dr. Susan Heitler “Marriage fights, that is, arguing at any level of intensity, reflect a breakdown in partnership. It means you have switched to a stance of being opponents, arguing for yourself and against your partner”, and that led to us looking at why that never happens for us.
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Successful Relationships Reading Corner

In this week’s blog we wrote about how to reach mutual solutions in your relationship. These articles address various aspects of finding solutions and doing so without compromising.
Want a great marriage? Don’t compromise. “I define compromise as each party going away equally unhappy.
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How to Reach Mutual Solutions in Your Relationship

We don’t argue. We don’t compromise. We don’t suppress our feelings. And we always find a solution to issues that works for both of us. Unlikely as that may sound, it’s been true for the dozen years we’ve known each other, and we’ve spent a lot of time examining why.
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No Matter What You Think, Not All Couples Fight!

On the first anniversary of our meeting, we made an astounding discovery. We realized that we had never had an argument, had never fought, not even a little. It has now been twelve years we’ve been together (ten since we got married) and it is still true; we have never had a fight, never argued, never felt distanced, alienated, or estranged from one another.
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How to Find a Relationship When You’re Older

Recently one of our readers asked if we could write about finding relationships when you are older. This connected with a discussion we have had a number of times and we feel it would be fun and hopefully helpful to explore this issue with you.
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To Commit or Not to Commit; That Is the Question

We’ve written a number of blogs on core values and how important it is to be sure that these match for both of you. In the beginning, you need to take enough time to be sure that a prospective partner’s actions truly reflect their words and to decide whether to stay in or get out based on what you feel and what you experience.
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Successful Relationships Reading Corner

In this week’s blog we wrote about whether differences are a strength or a weakness in a relationship, and concluded that, except for major differences, they are a positive. This week’s links write about that, including one that is about the benefits of diversity in groups.
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Differences – Strength or Weakness in a Relationship?

Differences are often seen as creating problems and conflict. Three main areas are:

how things are done
styles of socializing
passions

How Things are Done
From the toilet seat and toothpaste to finances and child-rearing, what our partner does affects us.
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Successful Relationships Reading Corner

In this week’s blog we wrote about making lists and keeping score. These articles have some amusing anecdotes about this.
Do You Keep Score in Your Relationships? “You and your partner just argued for the umpteenth time about whose turn it is to walk the dog:
“I walked her twice yesterday,” you point out.
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