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Successful Relationships Reading Corner

In this week’s blog, we wrote about the paradox of union and separateness in a relationship. Here are some excellent articles on this subject.
The Central Paradox of Love: Esther Perel on Reconciling the Closeness Needed for Intimacy with the Psychological Distance That Fuels Desire “How to live with those paradoxes, rather than succumbing to the self-defeating urge to treat them as problems to be solved, is what Belgian psychotherapist and writer Esther Perel explores in Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence (public library).
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The Paradox of Union and Separateness in a Relationship

Phil: I want to write about how we create these blogs because it illuminates the way we are together.
We usually talk about topics until one appears and feels fruitful, explore it some, then go off and write separately. When we come together again, we may amalgamate our different voices, interleave our different aspects, or take one as the framework and polish it, but whatever way we end up writing, one thing is certain: that we each agree with what the other has written, even though it may be in a different voice.
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Successful Relationships Reading Corner

I, Phil, wrote about how to reach union in your relationship in this week’s blog, and found it hard to find good links. Maude is the link-finding expert! A couple of these are on consciousness, which is for me a perennial fascination.
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How to Reach Union in Your Relationship

This is Phil, and I’m writing this week because Maude is attending a conference. I’m going to end up talking about relationships, but let’s start by talking about identity. I know what you’ll say. You’ll give your name and your address and whether you’re married and where you work and you’ll point at your skin as the boundary between you and the world, and that’s that.
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The Paradox of Intimacy and Separateness in a Relationship

Woodcarving of couple

Mature love is union under the condition of preserving one’s integrity, one’s individuality…. In love the paradox occurs that two beings become one and yet remain two. Erich Fromm
In our interviews with couples, we have found that there is a really tricky area that partners must learn to navigate together.
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