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Are Little White Lies Really Little?

White lies. They’re the lubricant of human interactions. “What an adorable baby!” “No, of course I don’t mind.” “I must have missed your email.” We tell them to make others feel better or to make us look better. They’re seen as beneficial in close relationships, too, for the same reasons, but there’s a price to be paid for that. Trust. Every white lie damages the credibility of all other statements. Even if it’s done to make you feel good: “Do I look fat in these jeans?” Every shading of the truth protects your poor fragile ego from the realities of the world.

Read more on our blog Are Little White Lies Really Little? and share your thoughts in comments there.

Relationship Reading Corner
​Here are some writings on little white lies. There are lots of different views on this issue. What do you think?
White Lies This cover the types of white lies, the reasons for them, their impact, and how to detect white lies.
10 Ways Little White Lies are Slowly Ruining Your Life Why little white lies are not that white and not that little.
The truth about little white lies: Why they’re actually more dangerous than you think Research shows that “all forms of lying—including white lies meant to spare the feelings of others—are associated with poorer-quality relationships.”
Why Those Little White Lies Do More Damage Than You Think One thing we deceive ourselves about is that we’re lying to protect others’ feelings. That’s not usually true. We often lie because we want another person to love us.
Book Report -- How Two: Have a Successful Relationship
 Some of you have been asking how the new book is progressing. It's back from the editor and we are busy laying it out, as you can see here:
Spreading peace one relationship at a time,
Phil and Maude

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