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Spreading Peace One Relationship at a Time
With our new book coming out next week, it’s a good time to share our personal reasons for writing it and how it came about.

Every relationship starts out well, and so did ours. As it continued, we were both struck by the sense that it was different and unusual, that it had a peaceful nature that was not circumstantial, but intrinsic. It had qualities that seemed remarkable, and we began to talk about just what they were, groping for words to describe them. This led to the publication of our new book.

Book Report
Only a week left till How Two: Have a Successful Relationship is available on Amazon in both print and Kindle ebook formats. We'll include the links in next Monday's newsletter. You can still pre-order the ebook and get half off.

Pre-order ebook is still available.
Get it at the special price of $3.95 — goes up to full price of $7.95 on May 3.

Successful Relationship Reading Corner
This week we blogged about why we wrote our new book, and we can’t find any links about that! So instead, here are some excerpts from our new book, “How Two: Have a Successful Relationship.”

Another Way
We live a conflict-free relationship. It’s been more than a decade now full of peace, love, joy and passion. Friends check in with us every so often: “So you still haven’t had any arguments?” The answer is always “No.”

Squabbles in a relationship are like stones in your shoes; they don’t have to be there.

One of the keys to a peaceful and joyous way of relating is to accept and respect each other as two separate and absolutely unique individuals. In our relationship, this is a critical part of how we are with each other.

Our Process
When there is something we need to agree on, whether it be a decision we have to make or a problem that needs to be resolved, we have found a way of dealing with it that does not involve any struggle or conflict.

Being Present
Being present means paying attention to what is actually happening. We get on so well because we practice this with each other; what is in the moment is more important to us than what has happened or what might happen.

Sexuality, Intimacy and Union
For us, as for many couples, sexuality is a place where we have a direct experience of union – a sense that we have merged to form one body. The sense of self as an individual, separate experience still remains, but there is this additional sense of connectedness. Sex is like a step-ladder; it enables us to reach a higher place, a vista of union that transcends the physical.

One of the most surprising aspects of our relationship is the direct experience of peace that it engenders. This follows naturally from the alternatives to conflict that we practice. For us, peace is not a void described by the absence of conflict, anger or war. Peace is an actual experience.

Spreading peace one relationship at a time,
Phil and Maude
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