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Spreading Peace One Relationship at a Time
"But it’s necessary to distinguish between important differences and unimportant differences. If you pick your partner for their superficial similarities, yet you disagree over deeper values – religion, family, finances, whatever it is for you – there is no stability there. It is like living in a haunted house -- it may be peaceful for weeks at a time, but the demons will appear.

"Whereas if you agree on basics, then those superficial differences are no threat at all; instead, they offer variety and novelty, not risk and danger. Differences between partners in a relationship are inevitable, but conflict is not. Once you have made sure that your core values match with your partner’s, by listening to their words and experiencing their actions, then you can truly relax into one of the most wonderful aspects of a relationship."

This article offers clear explanations on why differences are a cause for celebration. Click here to read the full article.
Successful Relationship Reading Corner
In this week's blog article we write about celebrating your partner's differences. Here are some interesting articles on this topic.

How the Differences in Your Relationship Can Be Gifts "He came from a broken family while mine was still firmly in tact; he was staunchly conservative while I leaned more to the left; I could be labeled “New Age,” while his religious upbringing was more traditional."

Are You and Your Partner Incompatible or Refreshingly Different? "The fact that you may enjoy different ways of doing things to your partner really doesn't matter, so long as you feel close."

HOW DIFFERENCES WITH YOUR SPOUSE CAN MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE STRONGER "I then did what any loving husband would do. I tried to fix her—to make her more like me. And she did the same. Not surprisingly, this led to several years of conflict."
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Spreading peace one relationship at a time,
Phil and Maude
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