Spreading Peace One Relationship at a Time Core values and their meanings are the very center of a person’s being. They are the things that evolve throughout your life that you base your behavior on, the way you respond to others and how you make decisions. Core values are not
beliefs; they underlie beliefs. They are aligned with your sense of right and wrong, your definition of goodness and the very raison d’être of your being.
If they do not match or mesh with your partner, then your relationship cannot succeed. This may sound harsh, but for the kind of relating that we are sharing about, it is an absolute requirement.
It was our 11th anniversary of meeting, so we treated ourselves to a weekend in Arroyo Grande and discovered Montaña de Oro (see picture.)
We read the proof of our new book aloud and
planned how to get it out to as many people as possible. If you have any ideas, please let us know!
Successful Relationship Reading Corner
In this week’s blog
article we asked why core values are important in relationships. Here are some other authors with useful insights.
Why shared
values are more important than shared interests "If you have shared values, regardless of your interests, your relationship has a good chance of success. On the other hand, if you have no shared values but lots of common interests, you might have a great time together for a while but when it comes to making decisions about marriage, children and careers, you could find that you lack the strong foundations that move you forward."
What Core Values Mean to Love "When we don’t consciously define our core values, we let people, places or things outside of us sway our decisions. In love relationships, this shows up when we react or respond to the whims of our partner. We use
our confusion, uncertainty and doubt to rationalize our partner’s bad behavior and question his actions, even though we know we deserve better."
Understanding your core values in relationships (no they’re not your common interests) "One of the things that people are most confused about and that I get asked a lot of questions about, is the issue of ‘common interests’ and letting superficial things inadvertently get mixed in with your ‘core’
values."
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