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How to Find a Relationship When You’re Older

Recently one of our readers asked if we could write about finding relationships when you are older. This connected with a discussion we have had a number of times and we feel it would be fun and hopefully helpful to explore this issue with you.

We have frequently posed the question of whether, had we met when we were younger, we would still have clicked and wound up with the great relationship we have, or even be in a relationship together at all.

It’s not so easy to answer. We have both changed and grown through the experiences we have had in relationships, both good and bad. And most importantly, we have come to know ourselves much better.

First and foremost, you need to ask yourself “Do you actually want to be in a relationship?” and if so, “What kind of relationship are you looking for?” 

These are very real and important considerations. Ask yourself, is it a life partner, a companion for dating or a friend that you are seeking?

Click here to explore these questions with us and let us know what your experiences are.

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Successful Relationship Reading Corner

In this week's blog we looked at how to find a relationship when you’re older. The writers have a wide view of what "older dating" means, but the advice applies at any age.

He Asked 1500+ Elders For Advice On Living And Loving. Here’s What They Told Him "Karl Pillemer has spent the last several years systematically interviewing hundreds of older Americans to collect their lessons for living. He’s ... a Ph.D. gerontologist at Cornell University. Some years ago, after turning 50, he wondered whether there is something about getting older that teaches you how to live better. “Could we look at the oldest Americans as experts on how to live our lives?” he asked. “And could we tap that wisdom to help us make the most of our lifetimes?” [He has written] “30 Lessons for Loving,” which features practical wisdom from over 700 older Americans with 25,000 collective years of marriage experience. One couple he profiles was married for 76 years. Another interviewee describes divorcing her husband, then remarrying him 64 years later."

40 Tips for Finding Love After 40 "We’ve asked a panel of local experts to share their top tips for finding love after the age of 40. Their words of wisdom are designed to help you find the kind of relationship that meets your individual wishes and needs at this exciting point in your life. From professional matchmakers to experienced relationship coaches, we’ve gathered a group of love aficionados who understand what it takes for mature adults to identify what they want and how to achieve it."

Romance and new relationships in later life "I recently asked some people between the ages of 20 and 45 what they thought about 70-year-old people hugging, touching, having sexual relations, living together. Some laughed, some just smiled. One person responded, “Aren’t people over 65 beyond all that?” Well… No."

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