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What Overlooked Things are Important in a Successful Relationship

We try to write and teach about things that come from our direct experience, rather than from theories of relationships. As often happens, we went to breakfast this Friday morning to choose a blog topic. Maude suggested tone of voice, but felt dismissed when Phil said "Yes, but...." Phil's response was then interrupted by Maude commenting.

We've been together long enough to recognize these patterns and express our right to be heard, so we yet again pointed them out, but this meta discussion didn't get defensive. Instead, it consisted of getting our original points across and critiquing the ways the communication had failed. It wasn't seen by either of us as a struggle to be right; it was a way to reconcile our different styles.

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Listen to Phil narrating this here.

Successful Relationship Reading Corner


In this week's blog, we asked what overlooked things are important in a successful relationship. Here are some good posts offering their answers.

Ten Elements of Effective Relationships "The other day, a friend pointed out that I very often write from the perspective of what people are doing wrong, as opposed to what they are doing right. Well, here are some things that I have found to be effective elements in a successful relationship; the right stuff."

What Research Tells Us About the Most Successful Relationships "There's no single "formula" to a perfect relationship. However, we've studied an awful lot about what successful couples do. Everyone's relationships are a bit different, but we can take away a lot from what we know works. While a perfect relationship might be beyond the grasp of science, studies on what makes a relationship successful are everywhere. Over the years, these studies have come up with some trends that help us better understand what sets a long lasting relationship apart from one that ends quickly."

Relationships – tips for success "A ‘good relationship’ means different things to different people. However, good adult relationships generally involve two people who respect each other, can communicate, and have equal rights, opportunities and responsibilities. Most people would also expect their relationship with their partner to include love, intimacy, sexual expression, commitment, compatibility and companionship."

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