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Choose Love, Not Fear, in All Your Relationships

Laughing rockEach of us has an inner voice that resonates with what is true. That spirit of truth tells you that love is real. And yet that very reality is being assailed. This disturbing trend has had serious repercussions.

It underlies a growing divide between people; one that has led to separation and estrangement. People are grappling with the definitions of truth and fact. Science is being questioned and often rejected in favor of fringe theories and belief in conspiracies and dark motivations that pit people and families against one another.

This often seems to be accompanied by an overriding push toward caring about the good of the one rather than that of the whole. And here lie the big questions: What can move us closer to the reality of love, toward a feeling of union rather than one of separation? What lies at the foundation of this move to relate to the single unit rather than the extended connected family at large? We believe it is fear that juxtaposes the good of the one against the good of the group. For us, they are not opposed but are actually the same.

Science is also being questioned, or perhaps it is more accurate to say reevaluated, by those who are looking for a more inclusive version of reality; one that seeks to move beyond just the provable and repeatable (the material) to the ineffable and the unique (the spiritual). Perhaps this is the area where we can allay the fear and find a common ground to reunite on.

For us, Phil and Maude, we have felt a great relief in the past weeks, and harbor the hope, that we can, as a people, move forward, away from this state of separation and alienation. We are still deeply sad about the divide and the suspicion that accompanies it. Yet, in our personal lives, we experience deep peace and the presence of love as a reality in our relationship with each other as well as in the large network of people and groups we have become connected to during the times of the pandemic.

We have joined newly formed Zoom groups that seek to promote connection, peace and harmony between people. We have made new friendships, as well as renewing old ones. These are a welcome haven in these troublous times, and have given us a deep strength and renewed our spirit.

Our world has two windows – inside and outside. The exterior view is currently a study in extremes. For many people, there is a sense of relief and of being able to breathe once again, but there are also the concerns of chaos, an out-of-control pandemic and runaway global warming.

These two worlds coexist and we are agitated or calmed depending on where our attention lies. Ignoring the outside world is not a responsible way to live. To interact with it requires several things. Don’t just be a passive observer; take action. It feels good and does good. And when you act, come from love, not fear. The latter only divides; love is what connects us.

We are all so blessed with the basics of life, as well as the freedom to express love and share it with others. Let us come together to be sure that all people can partake of these blessings. We can act and work together. We must if we wish to save our planet.

Photo credit: Phil Mayes

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Books on shelfOur blog this week was about responding with love, not fear. Here are some articles written on that topic.

Choosing Love Not Fear "The choice to reject fear and choose love can feel like something that only applies to moments of crisis, when we’re leaving a marriage, starting a new business, preparing to climb Mount Everest. But in truth, the opportunity to choose love and reject fear presents itself in the smallest moments of life, and specifically, in relationships with those closest to us. Love over fear is a choice every time someone tells us something about ourselves or has an experience of us that we don’t want to hear."

Is Fear What’s Really Blocking You? Choosing Love Over Fear "I talk about 'choosing love over fear' a lot. In fact, these words make up one of my favorite daily mantras: I choose to let love in and fear out. It wasn’t always like this though. Before I was ready to dig deep and really look at (or even be aware of) how my inner world shaped my outer world, I would have thought you were a little nutty, if you told me to 'choose love over fear.'"

Choose Love Not Fear And Discover You ARE Love "I'm sure you've heard 'choose love not fear' before. You'll find it within just about any spiritual path you explore. Intuitively, we KNOW we will be far happier if we follow it. However, when we are in the thick of things in our daily lives, it sometimes feels impossible to do. Therefore, I want to share a 'bridge' that I've discovered to help you choose love (and therefore, happiness)."

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