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Spreading Peace One Relationship at a Time
Wow. The date of the first draft tells us our new book How Two: Have a Successful Relationship has been nearly two years in the making. But it’s finally ready, and the Kindle ebook will be available for pre-order this coming Friday April 15th. Order it for only $3.95 (half the regular price of $7.95) and you can be the first to read it when it’s released on May 3rd.

"Phil and Maude know what it takes to have a successful and fulfilling relationship. In their new book, How Two: Have a Successful Relationship, they use honest, real life examples that actually work for couples wanting to create harmony and deep satisfaction in their relationship. If you are looking to finally establish true acceptance, intimacy, and a lifelong connection in your relationship, their book is a great read."
Michael Fiore, Digital Romance

Book Report
Here’s a foretaste of How Two: Have a Successful Relationship:

Another Way
We live a conflct-free relationship. It’s been more than a decade now full of peace, love, joy and passion. Friends check in with us every so often: “So you still haven’t had any arguments?” The answer is always “No.”

Squabbles in a relationship are like stones in your shoes; they don’t have to be there.

One of the keys to a peaceful and joyous way of relating is to accept and respect each other as two separate and absolutely unique individuals. In our relationship, this is a critical part of how we are with each other.

Our Process
When there is something we need to agree on, whether it be a decision we have to make or a problem that needs to be resolved, we have found a way of dealing with it that does not involve any struggle or conflict.

Being Present
Being present means paying attention to what is actually happening. We get on so well because we practice this with each other; what is in the moment is more important to us than what has happened or what might happen.

Sexuality, Intimacy and Union
For us, as for many couples, sexuality is a place where we have a direct experience of union – a sense that we have merged to form one body. The sense of self as an individual, separate experience still remains, but there is this additional sense of connectedness. Sex is like a step-ladder; it enables us to reach a higher place, a vista of union that transcends the physical.

One of the most surprising aspects of our relationship is the direct experience of peace that it engenders. This follows naturally from the alternatives to conflict that we practice. For us, peace is not a void described by the absence of conflict, anger or war. Peace is an actual experience.

Successful Relationship Reading Corner
Our Apr 3 blog discussed how a relationship becomes filled with peace when there is no conflict. We feel this is such an important topic that we are including further links that discuss it.

What Makes Conflict? How Are Conflicts Resolved? "What is conflict? Conflict is disagreement, but contrary to popular belief conflict does not necessarily involve fighting. As I explain in my book From Conflict to Resolution, conflict exists in any situation where facts, desires or fears pull or push participants against each other or in divergent directions."

Six Steps for Resolving Conflicts "Mark learned that conflicts don’t need to be volatile and negative. Conflicts can actually lead to increased understanding and creative thinking. It’s how we deal with conflict that determines the outcome."

The Dos and Don'ts of Arguing: My Tips for Keeping the Peace in Your Relationship "Don't get me wrong, I am not Mr. Perfect. I've made some big mistakes when it comes to conflict resolution in relationships. I mean, we all have our moments—it's only human. But I began to notice that most of my conflict was caused by miscommunication."

Spreading peace one relationship at a time,
Phil and Maude
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