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Spreading Peace One Relationship at a Time
 It was a year after meeting that we noticed we hadn’t had any arguments, and 10 years on from that, it’s still true.

Let us clarify our terms here. We have disagreements – things where we have different points of view – but they never, ever, turn into arguments. We define arguing as a way of communicating that makes each partner feel separate from the other; it creates estrangement, a feeling of being on different sides, and manifests as shouting, anger, tears, ultimatums or withdrawal.

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Book Report
It’s been a while since we wrote some parts of our new book, so we’ve been reading it out loud to refresh our memory. Reading aloud reveals errors, clunkiness and cadence that a silent reading does not, and we’ve made some improvements that are small enough not to upset the layout and cause a cascade of widows, orphans and page breaks. Aside from these few minor alterations, we are pleased to say it’s about ready for release.

This week we’re getting professional head shots, and business cards will arrive. The Marketing Monster moves into action!

We’ve sent out a few advance copies for review. If you know someone you believe would be good to contact for a review, please let us know. 

We are gathering lists to send announcements of the book’s release to. If you have a list or any contacts with one you believe we should get in touch with, please let us know.

We are excited and in the coming weeks we will be sending out some book goodies to share with all of you!

Successful Relationship Reading Corner
This week's blog was on "How to Have a Relationship Without Anger and Arguments." Our viewpoint is radically different; most writers espouse conflict as being inevitable. The first article is a rare exception.

Beware Of Mistaken Marriage Advice That "All Couples Fight" "'Fighting fair' from my perspective is still fighting.  My own belief is that emotionally mature and skillful couples don't fight at all.  When they are mad, they pause to calm down.  They then deal with the sensitive issue via quiet, cooperative talking."

In the following links, they espouse conflict as being inevitable, but they have some helpful advice.

How Conflict Can Improve Your Relationship " Communication is key to resolving conflict. The bedrock of good communication? Fully listening to your partner without building a case in your head of how your partner is wrong"

10 Ways Overcome Conflicts in Relationships and Grow Together "Instead of seeing conflict as a threat to a relationship, what if we reframed this and saw conflict as an opportunity and a sign of growth in a relationship?"

Spreading peace one relationship at a time,
Phil and Maude
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