Home Archive Prev Next

We have often written about how helpful it is to have some physical contact when making decisions and solving problems. We have emphasized that having eye contact and sitting near each other creates a stronger sense of being heard and acknowledged when practicing active listening. These sound like very simple acts, and yet they can have a profound effect in creating an atmosphere of connection.

To connect physically, you have to stop what you are doing and reach out toward your partner, you have to be close enough to your partner to actually make contact. The warmth and reassurance that comes from a hug, a quick kiss, your partner taking your hand while walking, sitting close enough together that your legs touch while talking together or even watching a program, all these acts are forms of physical contact that speak volumes with no words.

Book Report
We hope y'all got your free ebook from last week's limited offer. We'd love if you could put up a review on Amazon. It helps more than you can imagine. Add it here. Here's our latest 5* review from Dr. Gail Brenner:

I give this book my highest recommendation! Its spirit and intention are so heartfelt that you will come away feeling that a deep and mutually satisfying relationship is possible. Not only do the authors share their own experience in great detail, they include in-depth interviews with other couples that enrich each idea they present.

From reading this book, I:
* Have a greater understanding of the degree of acceptance needed for a successful relationship
* Know better how to navigate the terrain of maintaining your individuality while supporting the needs of the couple
* Know how to go through a process to find solutions to disagreements without fighting
* Understand more deeply how to be present in all my relationships

The path of relationship outlined here is not for the faint of heart. It takes a willingness to look at, and take responsibility for, your own patterns and tendencies that contribute to friction in the relationship. But, the benefits are huge—a relationship that is bonded, satisfying, and peaceful. Thank you, Maude and Phil!

Successful Relationship Reading Corner
This week's blog is on the power of touch. Here are some articles on that is important.

The Power of Touch "Touch is the first sense we acquire and the secret weapon in many a successful relationship. Here's how to regain fluency in your first language."

Intimacy In Relationships "One of the keys to a healthy, long-term relationship is maintaining physical intimacy. I’m not just talking about sex, though—for many reasons, non-sexual physical intimacy is just as important. For one thing, touch is a form of communication. It can reveal everything from your partner’s current mood state to their stress level."

The Power of Touch in Your Relationship "research reported in the New York Times suggests that couples that engage in more touch report higher levels of relationship satisfaction. This might sound like common sense, but it is also a good reminder of what helps sustain successful relationships."

Spreading peace one relationship at a time,
Phil and Maude
Like us on Facebook
Follow us on Twitter and Instagram
Read our blogs at PhilAndMaude.
If you are interested in newsletters you've missed, see our archive.
Who do you know who would enjoy this newsletter? Tell them to sign up at http://philandmaude.com/howtwo/.