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As we discussed in last week’s blog, when you view your partner as an extension of yourself, and not a separate unique individual, it leads to all sorts of problems like trying to control your partner as you would control yourself. This can occur as a downside of the transcendent experience of union (two in one.) There are also other issues created by mixing up your identities.

You may freely give up your own thoughts, feelings, desire to gain approval or love from your partner.... This type of behavior is not sustainable as your identity will always reassert itself. Often you will feel an internal drive to get out of the relationship rather than continually pushing your true self aside.

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This week's blog asks if you're losing your identity in a relationship. Here are some thoughts to this topic.

How to Be With Someone But Still Be Yourself "But that feeling of merging may contribute to you feeling like you're losing your identity—or losing yourself in the relationship. When two become one, there’s beauty to that. A reciprocal relationship celebrates and encourages your unique sense of self within it. But that process usually doesn't happen cleanly, and you may start to fear that your independent self will be annihilated."

5 Things You Can Do To Avoid Losing Your Identity In The Relationship "A recent study from the University of Liverpool in the U.K. found that of the men and women who had entered into a married or cohabiting relationship for the first time during the study, many noted they experienced a loss of their single identities, specifically after moving in with their partners."

7 Ways to Tell if You’re Losing Yourself in Your Relationship "Sometimes our relationship can lead us to lose confidence in ourselves, stop doing the things that are important to us, compromise our lives for our partner and sometimes our personality even starts to change."

Spreading peace one relationship at a time,
Phil and Maude
 
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