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To Commit or Not to Commit; That Is the Question

We’ve written a number of blogs on core values and how important it is to be sure that these match for both of you. In the beginning, you need to take enough time to be sure that a prospective partner’s actions truly reflect their words and to decide whether to stay in or get outbased on what you feel and what you experience.

It is important to be consciously assessing this match in the early times of a relationship. Unfortunately, some people make this a permanent part of their partnership. They are never truly in or out of it. They are always, to some degree or another, in the assessment phase.

That’s where that sometimes maligned word ‘commitment’ comes in. In order to have the kind of relationship that brings peace and mutual happiness, the kind that we write and talk about, it is necessary to know you are both committed to the relationship; that you are in it together. It is important to know that you are both on the same side.

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Successful Relationship Reading Corner

In this week's blog we wrote about commitment. This week's links discuss various aspects of this topic.

Committed Relationship - What Does That Really Mean? "Commitment also requires that each partner choose it themselves. I don't believe anyone can force you to commit to something. You can certainly try, but ultimately a true commitment that comes from the heart has to come from each person of their own free will."

Passion + Intimacy + Commitment = Consummate Love "Passion, intimacy, and commitment are the three pillars of couple-love, says psychologist, Robert Sternberg in his “triangular theory.” We may love based on intimacy, passion, or commitment, or any combination of the three."

What Committed to a Relationship Means "A deeper level of commitment, the psychologists report, is a much better predictor of lower divorce rates and fewer problems in marriage."

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