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Knowing Yourself is Important For Your Relationship


We have been discussing how to keep love alive in your relationship, suggesting ways to share and interact with your partner that will infuse your relationship with passion and kindness.

For this to work, you have to like being with your partner, and you have to like being with yourself as well.

You have to be content with yourself before you can be in a contented relationship. That’s not to say you can’t be in a relationship at all, but if you feel dissatisfaction, pain or anger, accept that that is what you bring into it. When those emotions come from your partner, do not accept your role in their scene, their act, their drama. You do not have to respond to pain with guilt, to anger with fear or flight or struggle. To react in such a way is codependency. Instead, have empathy and compassion. This is your partner on the path to finding themselves.

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Successful Relationship Reading Corner


Bookshelf In this week's blog, we wrote that knowing yourself is important for your relationship, and we've found some very good articles about this – so many that we picked four this week.

Know Yourself? 6 Specific Ways to Know Who You Are "This blog will reveal 6 elements of self-knowledge that can help you understand your own identity.  As you live your daily life, you can look for clues to these important building blocks of Self. But first, why is it important to know yourself?"

Knowing Yourself: How to Improve Your Understanding of Others "Developing a better understanding of yourself may also improve your capacity to better understand the thoughts and feelings of other people, a new study from Germany suggests. Researchers found that adults who participated in a psychology-training program to enhance their "perspective-taking" ... became better at understanding themselves as well as understanding others, according to the findings published...in the Journal of Cognitive Enhancement.... all things being equal, more people are undone by behavioral issues than by anything else."

The Right Way to Get to Know Yourself "To put it rather indelicately, many self-help books attempt to provide remedies for scraping away the sticky build up from the business of everyday living in order to reach an Authentic Self. But I fear the quest for an Authentic Self is as likely to succeed as a quest to capture a unicorn."

People Don't Actually Know Themselves Very Well "the truth is that no one has perfect self-awareness—you probably believe more than a few things about yourself that are false. Sixteen rigorous studies of thousands of people at work have shown that people’s coworkers are better than they are at recognizing how their personality will affect their job performance."

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