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Why Are the 3 A’s Important in Your Relationship?

Recently we went away for a day and night for no reason. It was wonderful just to be together and to step outside of our daily lives. It made us more consciously aware of the peace and loving calm we derive from our relationship.

That trip was perfectly timed, as for several weeks after, we were somewhat challenged in our day to day life. We’ve been worrying about friends with life-threatening illnesses; we’ve both been ailing ourselves, though we weren’t seriously ill or bedridden; we’ve had a house full of guests, and the political situation continues along its knife-edge of crisis.

We know that our burdens are not much compared with those of other people, but they still weigh us down. Yet they are so much easier to bear because of the strength we draw from our relationship, and we have been looking anew at what we get from it and how it works.

Click here to read what and how, or click here for Phil to read it to you.

Last Call for Locals!

We're appearing today, Sunday, June 10, 1:30 - 4:00 at the Carpinteria Festival of Books at 1059 Vallecito Rd. (map)

We'd love to see you! Our books will have special show prices and we can sign them, too!

EntheoMedicine presents Dr. Richard Miller

There is another local presentation from Entheo Medicine next Saturday, June 16th. at Unity Santa Barbara, 6-9 p.m.

Dr. Miller will talk about new therapeutic and nootropic uses of psychedelics.

Dr. Richard Miller has been a clinical psychologist for more than 50 years. He has been a faculty member at Stanford University and the University of Michigan, an advisor on the Commission on Mental Health, a founding board member of the Gestalt Institute of San Francisco, and member of the National Board of directors for the Marijuana Policy. Founder of the nationally acclaimed Cokenders Alcohol and Drug Program.

Click here for more details, including tickets.

Successful Relationship Reading Corner

BookshelfIn this week's blog we asked why are acceptance, appreciation and acknowledgement important in your relationship? Other people write about these, sometimes choosing slightly different A-words.

The 3As in Relationship Success: Acceptance, Appreciation, Acknowledgement "This is when being able to fully accept your lover is essential. It doesn’t mean you have to agree with everything they say, do, or believe. But you have to know that this is who they are. They are not you and for some people this can be upsetting. I know, hard to believe, but it is amazing how many people come into my office wanting me to change their partner — make them understand how incorrect they are in their beliefs and actions. This is non-acceptance at its highest form."

Learn the 5 A's of Relating "We all crave something in relationships.  This is why you are reading this blog.  This is why you have sought out relationships of every kind for your entire life.  We are innately social creatures, constantly seeking something from others, and giving that something back to others in the process we call relating.  We’ve seen it in the movies, romance novels, success stories, and the like.  We seek it subconsciously every day, but how do you describe it?  What is it, exactly?  The closest I’ve come to understanding what “it” is came when I learned the 5 A’s of relationships."

Being accepted and appreciated for who you are "What could be more fundamental to a healthy, loving relationship than being accepted and appreciated for who you are? And yet, it's a common issue. Why is that? One set of reasons boil down to challenges in communication and interpretation."


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Phil and Maude
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