Compatibility

The idea that shared interests make a couple compatible is very common:

What Mr. Godla shared with Ms. Vignon, which he hadn’t with his first three wives, was “a passion for the field of 18th-century craftsmanship in French decorative arts,” Ms. Vignon said. Source

We talked the other night about why we get on so well, and came up with this list:

• both lived a communal lifestyle
• both lived abroad
• have politics in common
• same approach to money and housekeeping

With these, you might say what a lucky match we are, but then I listed the ways we could be considered mismatched:

• different cultures – Jewish and Protestant
• different origins – England and America
• you have children, I don’t
• you had two long-term relationships; I only had shorter ones
• you grew up in an open, loving family; I was raised with English reserve
• you follow the Urantia papers; I am attracted to Zen Buddhism
• we work in very different fields

So I don’t think it has much to do with these factors, but instead is more to do with how we are with each other.

Tell your friends!