Reading Corner
Links related to the weekly posts.
In this week’s blog article we wrote about sacred space. Here are some articles that touch on various aspects of this topic.
Spend Time with your Partner for Relationship Success “Research has shown that one of the major reasons that relationships fail is due to lack of time spent together. Spending time with your partner is like saving money for a rainy day. Every time you and your partner spend some time together you are shoring up the relationship against the times that you will hit a bump.”
The Policy of Undivided Attention “many couples [make] the argument that it’s impractical. But in the end, they usually agree that without time for undivided attention, they cannot re-create the love they once had for each other.”
5 Simple but Often Forgotten Ways to Keep a Relationship Strong “Quality time is essential. Whether you are in a long-distance relationship or just live a busy life with full-time jobs and outside activities, you may not be able to spend as much time as you’d like with your loved one. Do something fun together, do something meaningful, have meaningful conversations, pay attention to each other, and express your love like crazy.”
In this week’s blog article we wrote about sex, intimacy and union. It was difficult finding articles that talked about the whole issue. Here are some articles that touch on various aspects of this trinity.
Intimacy and Relationships “Emotional intimacy doesn’t automatically occur with sexual intimacy, as people who are sexually involved may still be unable or choose not to share their innermost thoughts and feelings.”
How Does Sex Differ from Intimacy? “Are sex and intimacy different things? Can you have one without the other? Or does one lead to another?”
Sexuality and Marital Intimacy “Too often couples are embarrassed to ask questions, to discuss likes and dislikes – everyone assumes they are supposed to know how to be good lovers, but how can you be unless you are able to talk about it. Of course, this includes the after as well, because the issue I’m addressing here is finding out what works and what doesn’t IN THIS RELATIONSHIP.”
In this week’s blog article we wrote about celebrating your partner’s differences. Here are some interesting articles on this topic.
How the Differences in Your Relationship Can Be Gifts “He came from a broken family while mine was still firmly in tact; he was staunchly conservative while I leaned more to the left; I could be labeled “New Age,” while his religious upbringing was more traditional.”
Are You and Your Partner Incompatible or Refreshingly Different? “The fact that you may enjoy different ways of doing things to your partner really doesn’t matter, so long as you feel close.”
HOW DIFFERENCES WITH YOUR SPOUSE CAN MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE STRONGER “I then did what any loving husband would do. I tried to fix her—to make her more like me. And she did the same. Not surprisingly, this led to several years of conflict.”
In this week’s blog article we wrote about the difference between disagreeing and arguing. Ours is an unorthodox viewpoint, so we were pleased to find some very good articles on this topic.
Beware Of Mistaken Marriage Advice That “All Couples Fight” “Cavemen and cavewomen probably survived by being stronger than others, more aggressive, and quicker at defending themselves in the face of stressful potential conflicts. The modern world survives, by contrast, primarily on abilities to cooperate. Stressful situations that are becoming adversarial between loving partners can escalate into ever more stressful arguments. Alternatively, they can be handled with calm, productive, collaborative talking together (link is external)that dissipates stress and yields creation of mutually comfortable solutions.”
ARGUMENT OR DISAGREEMENT? “What is important to remember is not to avoid all disagreements but to remember to respect the other person’s point of view. If you are too busy trying to get your way, you can easily forget what is important. ”
The Difference Between a Disagreement and a Fight “Just going along with your spouse and forgetting your own wants or needs does not result in a better outcome, unless the disagreement is so minor you will not remember it tomorrow…. If you pursue a Third Alternative, an option each of you finds at least as pleasing as the one your mate turned down, you get two huge benefits.”
We are happy to announce that the results of the survey of the best blog posts of 2015 are in and we want to share them with you. It was fascinating to find out what you all thought were the most helpful posts and we so appreciate you taking the time to reread and to give us your feedback. We want our blog posts to offer the most to the reader, so this information is really helpful. Here are the three winners. Click on the links to read the full articles.