Successful Relationships Reading Corner
This week, we wrote that you should rely on relationships to stay sane in an insane world. Here are three of our earlier posts on supporting each other.
How Your Peaceful Relationships Are a Shelter From the Storm “I won’t pretend that this does not bring me to tears sometimes, but I do want to stress that as troubled by all this as I am, this is not my inner reality. I am quietly, calmly peaceful inside. I have joy in my heart and gratefulness for every moment and every connection with others. I am buoyed up by those people who are willing to live in peace and love while standing firm in this world and doing whatever they can to make things better.”
How to Find Peace and Hope Through Your Relationships “We found ourselves in a very special part of nature, far away from the deluge of projections, divisive storylines and media outpourings. One of the days we walked along the cliffs of Montana de Oro, a California State Park with over 6000 acres and over 7 miles of coastline. It was foggy and pretty empty of people. We’d been walking for quite some time, breathing in the air and the atmosphere, when I grabbed Phil’s hand and motioned for him to stop. I realized our footsteps were the only sound other than occasional bird noises. We stood there wrapped in stillness, in an intense sense of quiet…The peace that permeated both of us was profound. I felt my hope and a sense of belief in goodness and love flooding through me. It was palpable. It was okay. It was more than okay. It was wonderful. We were wonderful together…All it took was to remove ourselves from the hammering from pundits and mainstream media and replace that with a few days of concentration on ourselves, our relationship, and of course, the healing power of nature.”
Why It’s Important to Support Each Other in Your Relationships “We each have a strong feeling of being supported by the other person. It pervades our togetherness and is one of the underpinnings of the peace that characterizes our relationship. It is a feeling, an experience, rather than a thought…It feels good to give support, too. It feels good to wish the other the best, share their enjoyment, and savor their growth. It feels natural and effortless: it is not transactional, there is no quid pro quo, there is no invoice being prepared….This experience of both giving and receiving support is mutual, and this mutuality is a large part of the peace that we experience together. We do not express it in the same ways. We are different people with different skills, and we do not expect the other to act and express themselves as we do. Yet we are equally invested in giving and getting that feeling.”