After last week’s post, There’s Only One Side in Peaceful Relationships—the Same Side, we thought we’d follow up with a few pages from one of our books. It fascinates us that our themes are so steadfast, but at the same …
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MAUDE: I was reading a note from Anna Drabik, one of my favorite relationship writers on Substack, about compromise. We had an exchange on the topic, which led Phil and me to revisit this subject and share what we feel …
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PHIL: Maude and I have taken compromise to mean giving something up in order to get something else – a form of trading that inevitably involves losses – but on a recent course we gave, one participant said “it’s OK …
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Find your answers by co-creating them! One of the reasons we get on so well is that when we tackle a problem, whether emotional or practical, we are adept at finding a mutual solution, an outcome that works for both …
“Oh, what I do to keep peace in my relationship!” This was the frequent refrain of a dear friend, and when asked further what he meant by that, he explained “Well it seems I’m always giving something up to keep …
Last week we blogged about active listening. This week we would like to share from our book, How Two: Have a Successful Relationship, which includes a conversation on acceptance, active listening and compromise. Acceptance Does Not Mean Compromise Often when …
Everybody copies each other. People take their cues for how to behave from all around, like a flock of birds that wheel in formation. It’s hard to accept this; everyone has a sense of uniqueness and independence, yet people constantly …
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The only way in which a human being can make some approach to knowing the whole of a subject is by hearing what can be said about it by persons of every variety of opinion and studying all modes in …
“Okay, so our core values match and we are ready to pursue a long term relationship.” So what now? “We’ve renewed our vows and want to re-create our relationship with peaceful intentions and an awareness of being on the same …
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“We are always compromising, and I feel like I’m slowly giving up everything I want, just to have an agreement.” “We’ve gotten pretty good at finding compromises when we disagree, but I’m beginning to think I’m losing myself and my …