People get into quarrels over all sorts of things, big and small. They get upset because they feel they’re not going to get what they want; anything from a clean kitchen to another child. They might feel hurt, attacked, insulted, …

It Is Important To See The Other’s Viewpoint In Your Relationship Read more »

Our partners and intimates are not mind readers, yet too often we act as though they are. We are taught in society to be polite, not hurt other’s feelings, be careful what we say and how we say it. In …

It’s Important to Share Your True Feelings in Your Relationship Read more »

The common wisdom about relationships is that there will be times of conflict. You will find writer after writer advising you to handle this by talking, being kind, communicating, compromising, making lists, having date nights and accepting the inevitable. But …

How to Reframe Your Relationship for the Better Read more »

A core aspect of our relationship is the “We”. And yet we are each separate individuals. Herein lies a paradox we referred to in last week’s blog about seeing differences as an asset. As well as making the “we” central …

The Truth of the “We” at the Core of Relationships Read more »

There’s more to active listening than usually gets discussed. We bumped up against this recently, while working on a Secret Project. We were talking, and both of us felt interrupted by the other. We’ve occasionally had this experience of being …

You Need to Balance Talking and Listening Read more »

Both life and relationships need a balance between planning and going with the flow. This is an important part of our lives and the lives of our relationships. Yet how do we do both at the same time? People differ …

How to Balance Structure and Flow in Your Relationship Read more »