PHIL: When we started looking at how we get along so well, we saw that we used a method, and we named it Our Process. It’s a way of exchanging positions and feelings that allow us to find a mutual …
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A reader emailed us about last week’s blog: “It sounds simple but not easy. I certainly haven’t mastered it yet!” We maintain harmony in our relationship the same way a bike stays in balance when being ridden. It happens with …
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Whether you are struggling in a partnership, a familial relationship or a close friendship, the challenge remains the same: how do you care for your individual needs and desires and still manifest cooperation? Our answer to this is always the …
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Are you having disagreements that turn into arguments in your relationships? Are your different ideas about how to do things causing separation and distance between you and your partner, friend, relative? This can be changed! Disagreements come in different degrees. …
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We wrote last week about why core values are so important and that when you and your partner want different things, having shared core values usually makes a resolution possible. Sometimes, of course, it’s not a problem at all. Bill …
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What do you do when disagreements arise in a relationship? There will be times when it appears you and your partner are at odds. We get along great, but I don’t do well with the step-kids. I am passionate about …
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People get into quarrels over all sorts of things, big and small. They get upset because they feel they’re not going to get what they want; anything from a clean kitchen to another child. They might feel hurt, attacked, insulted, …
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One aspect of this stay-at-home period is how on top of each other some people are, and the risk of tension and conflict this creates. We often talk about having a conflict-free relationship. What do we mean in this instance? …
Last week we wrote about mutuality, a co-creative element of our relationship. There are two other factors that form the foundation of our way of being together. One of these is the union that arises from sexual connection. For nearly …
PHIL: One view of relationships is that they have a competitive element. They trade in currencies like love, chores, sex, money and compliments, and people maneuver to get the best possible deal. But you can instead throw away all those …
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