Last week we wrote about mutuality, a co-creative element of our relationship. There are two other factors that form the foundation of our way of being together. One of these is the union that arises from sexual connection. For nearly …
The direct experience of mutuality is a critical aspect of a peaceful and conflict-free relationship. It is the sense of being in the relationship, rather than just being our individual selves. In fact, “rather than” is the wrong connector here; …
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At the beginning of the month, Maude visited her old haunts in Europe while Phil stayed home. We both wrote about the experience of the separation and how it highlighted the sense of union that we have. This makes it …
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Do you want a relationship founded in peace and dedicated to the highest good for both of you? Most of us do. So what goes into having that? There are some underlying principles that are part of any truly peaceful …
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Phil: Sex is an important part of our relationship, but we haven’t written about it much, as it is both transcendent and elusive. We see sexual encounters as lying on a spectrum from two people having separate sexual experiences together …
In last week’s blog post we discussed the importance of truly recognizing that in any relationship, there is a person other than one’s self present: “We feel that to truly develop a successful intimate relationship, you have to acknowledge and …
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Phil: I want to write about how we create these blogs because it illuminates the way we are together. We usually talk about topics until one appears and feels fruitful, explore it some, then go off and write separately. When …
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This is Phil, and I’m writing this week because Maude is attending a conference. I’m going to end up talking about relationships, but let’s start by talking about identity. I know what you’ll say. You’ll give your name and your …
Mature love is union under the condition of preserving one’s integrity, one’s individuality…. In love the paradox occurs that two beings become one and yet remain two. Erich Fromm In our interviews with couples, we have found that there is …
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