PHIL: Many years ago, when I was squatting in London with a bunch of other people, I wrote a proposal that we should all find a place in the country and move there. I even organized a visit to a …
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PHIL: We live in two worlds. One is our life together. Each evening we retire early to watch Netflix, do the New York Times crossword, play word games and chill. We call this our sacred space. Each week we write …
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PHIL: Everybody we know seems to be venturing out again. We’re on our second trip since being fully vaccinated, and on the drive we talked about the importance of getaways and why this is so. One reason is the stimulation …
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We would like to share with you what’s happening in our relationship and how that can be applied by you so as to have a more conflict-free, peaceful relationship. We’re back from our anniversary trip, and as is our custom, …
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Our relationship has been filled with revelations for both of us. The largest of those has been its sacred nature. We use this phrase consciously, as we came to this truth through actual experience. We call it our sacred space, …
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Phil: Sex is an important part of our relationship, but we haven’t written about it much, as it is both transcendent and elusive. We see sexual encounters as lying on a spectrum from two people having separate sexual experiences together …
Phil: The end of this year leaves both of us feeling unsettled by the social divisiveness that extends right down to the question of what is true. Society only exists through shared agreements, and their absence creates a backdrop of …
I hold this to be the highest task for a bond between two people: that each protects the solitude of the other. Rainer Maria Rilke In a recent blog we discussed sacred space and how important it is to create …
One practice that is a major part of how we are together is what we call sacred space – the time when we are together for the purpose of being together. Although every couple has a different way of approaching …
For our 9th wedding anniversary we rented an Airbnb in the California Sierra mountains. We were sitting on the bed, luxuriating in being together in peaceful seclusion, and decided to each write our feelings down. Not surprisingly, although we wrote …