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Successful Relationships Reading Corner

This week we blogged on the truth of the “we” at the core of relationships. Here are some fascinating articles sharing studies about the use of “we” versus “I” in relationships.
How to Improve Your Relationship With One Simple Word “… check this out: Researcher Robert Levenson and colleagues at University of California, Berkeley, have been eavesdropping on our relationships and found couples who use the word “we” when talking, especially about difficult things, are happier, calmer, exhibit more positive emotional behavior, have less negative automatic arousal (i.e.
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The Truth of the “We” at the Core of Relationships

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A core aspect of our relationship is the “We”. And yet we are each separate individuals.
Herein lies a paradox we referred to in last week’s blog about seeing differences as an asset. As well as making the “we” central in our relationship, to be an unquestioned baseline, it is also necessary for us to have the knowledge and experience that we are honored, respected and supported unique individuals.
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Successful Relationships Reading Corner

In this week’s blog, we wrote about how to solve differences from a place of mutuality. Here are a number of articles on listening and being heard.
Listen Up: Why You Don’t Feel Heard in Your Relationship “Solid, healthy communication is essential in any relationship because it’s the pathway to intimacy.
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How to Solve Differences From a Place of Mutuality

This morning we were at our local breakfast nook working on blog topics. We each shared ideas about a possible topic, and some tensions arose unexpectedly. Maude wanted to continue last week’s theme of peace, and Phil wanted a different topic for variety.
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Successful Relationships Reading Corner

In this week’s blog, we asked how do differences in your relationship strengthen it? Here are some other articles covering aspects of that.
Relationship advice: five experts reveal the secrets to long-term love “One of the more ridiculous myths about “true love” is the idea of the soulmate – that there is someone out there who is your perfect match.
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How Do Differences in Your Relationship Strengthen It?

To be in a successful relationship, it is very helpful to know and be comfortable with yourself.
We all try to fit in with each other, just as the birds in a flock act together. We make ourselves more attractive to other people by how we dress, speak, behave and react.
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Successful Relationships Reading Corner

In this week’s blog, we write about the myth that differences cause problems in a relationship. Here are some articles that also discuss this topic.
How the Differences in Your Relationship Can Be Gifts “It’s in our nature as humans to gravitate towards those who have interests similar to our own.
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The Myth of Difference Causing Problems in a Relationship

For the last several weeks we have been writing about the popular myths of work and compromise concerning relationships.
Here are some of the types of statements even the most positive articles put forth:

“Our individual differences make friction between people we care about, inevitable.”
“The bad news is that some degree of effort and agony is inevitable in most relationships.”
“Relationships are hard work.
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Differences – Strength or Weakness in a Relationship?

Differences are often seen as creating problems and conflict. Three main areas are:

how things are done
styles of socializing
passions

How Things are Done
From the toilet seat and toothpaste to finances and child-rearing, what our partner does affects us.
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Why You Should Celebrate the Differences in Your Relationship

Feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open, and rules are flexible – Virginia Satir
In these strange days, where prejudices of all kinds are showing their ugly underbelly in the political and legal world we live in, it is time to re-examine one of the basic principles of the process for successful relationships that we teach.
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