Tag: Conflict

Struggle to Get To The Place of No Struggle

Chocolate Buddha

One of our readers was sharing our blog with a friend and wrote, “Love their blogs, though they make it seem easier than it is.” This is something we have heard before, and we would like to address it.
What we offer is a transformation, a reframing of how you see your partner and your expectations of them, so that the two of you can be together peacefully without conflict.
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Successful Relationships Reading Corner

This week, we wrote about what the difference is between disagreement and conflict. In researching the subject, we’ve found that different writers assign different meanings to the terms disagreement, conflict, argument and fighting. Nevertheless, they are making very similar points.
Disagreements Are Not Conflicts “While lots of couples, and the people who advise them, use disagreement and conflict interchangeably; I believe doing so ignores important differences between these two types of interactions.
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How to Understand that Disagreement Need Not be Conflict

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Plenty of relationship advice says that conflict in a relationship is inevitable and healthy. We disagree on both counts.
It may just be a matter of semantics. If it amounts to a statement that people shouldn’t suppress their feelings, we have no quarrel with that.
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Successful Relationships Reading Corner

This week, we wrote that relationship differences can be valuable and important. Here are some people writing about differences in relationships.
7 Things All Successful Couples Agree On & 7 Things It’s OK To Disagree On “‘Differences are what keeps the relationship interesting,’ NYC-based therapist Kimberly Hershenson, LMSW tells Bustle.
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Relationship Differences Can Be Valuable and Important

Two hippies

PHIL: Some writings have seared themselves into my brain. One was Games People Play. It was the first time I had met the idea of unconscious motivations, and also of being direct with people. Another was Be Here Now, the idea that the world in front of me is primary.
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In this week’s blog, we wrote about how truth transforms arguments in your relationship. Here are some articles that cover this from various viewpoints.
How Secrets and Lies Destroy Relationships “…in an intimate relationship, emotional honesty includes allowing our partner to know who we are.
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Truth Will Transform the Arguments in Your Relationship

Cat sulking

Maude offered to watch the grand-kids for a week, taking her away from the house except for school hours. The day before she was leaving, we were edgy with each other.
Don’t ask what it was about. I think it was my fault, feeling our usual life was being disrupted, eager to get space for writing, annoyed at having to make a series of decisions – who knows?
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In this week’s blog, we wrote about how to defuse drama in your relationship. Here are some articles looking at this from several different points of view.
How I Broke My Wife and Turned Her Against Me “As I write this, I’m worried my wife is broken.
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How to Defuse Drama in Your Relationship

We were both touched by a letter we received describing a marriage where the writer is criticized over many small things by their spouse. They weren’t seeking advice, just sharing, but it reminded us of a couple we have recently spent time with, and this caused us to have several discussions about this style of relating.
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We wrote in this week’s blog about avoiding fear and attachment in your relationship conflicts. Here are some articles and a video about unearthing the reasons behind your conflicts.
How to Develop Self-Love and Why This Will Strengthen Your Relationship “Of course it helps to be entering a relationship with a strong feeling of self-love.
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