Successful Relationships Reading Corner

Successful Relationships Reading Corner

This week, we wrote about how to find your shared reality and create peaceful relationships. When we talk about this, we are talking about something that is a reality. In that, we differ from these articles which use the term in a different context.

Psychologists identify “shared reality” as a key component of close relationships “New research in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology indicates that a shared sense of reality plays an important — but overlooked — role in social connections. The findings help explain what makes new acquaintances feel like they “click” when they first meet, and also why romantic couples and close friends feel like they share a common mind.”

Shared reality: This psychological factor might be key to your success “Shared reality refers to the perception of sharing inner states – feelings, beliefs, or concerns – with others regarding the world. This concept goes beyond mere liking or closeness in relationships. It involves creating a common understanding of external events, people, and objects, which is crucial for navigating and succeeding in the world. Instrumental others refers to individuals in our lives who significantly aid or facilitate our ability to achieve our goals. These can be mentors, colleagues, friends, family members, or any other key figures who actively contribute to our journey towards success.”

The Reality of What Makes People Click “According to Columbia University psychologist Maya Rossignac-Milon, the theory of shared reality suggests that we are most likely to feel closer to each other when we turn our mutual attention to something beyond ourselves. That’s exactly what happened to the Ju/’hoan. No fire (or shared reality) and their conversations were superficial. With fire (or a shared reality) and conversation elevated, causing connections to thrive. Shared reality is the third party in any social connection.”

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