Tag: Successful relationships

Core Values and The Spectrum of Acceptance

Along with a discussion of core values, it is important to talk about The Spectrum of Acceptance. When we talk about successful relationships, we describe actions and values as lying along a spectrum. At one end of this spectrum are your deal breakers; areas of meaning and value that you consider to be core to your life.
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Finding a Partner

I want to jot down some notes on finding  a partner. Three points.
Understanding what makes for conflict-free relating provides the basis for what to look for in a partner.
You have to walk the walk to attract a like person.
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Presence and Never in a Hurry

Dearest Phil,
Looking at the issue of “never being in a hurry’ has been really profound for me. I have been looking at how this can apply to our modern day lives. I think that a key aspect of never being in a hurry is Presence.
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More Thoughts to the all Important Issue of Acceptance

In order to accept another person for who they are and how they act, it is important to feel secure in who you are yourself. I think to be in a successful relationship, you need to have spent time learning about yourself and be willing to go on with that learning.
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Change Your Words – Change Your Relationship – for the Better

We’ve written a guest post on a wonderful site called geekandjock.com. It is about the use of peaceful language within a relationship. These tips will be helpful for any relationship, not just couples, and we believe you will enjoy it as well as being able to use it.
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Is Conflict Inevitable in Relationships?

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We’ve been reading “Why Marriages Succeed or Fail” by John Gottman. After studying hundreds of couples, he concluded that all of them contained conflict, and successfully resolving it was the key to a lasting marriage.
We disagree. In the seven-plus years we’ve known each other, we have never had conflicts of the nature he describes.
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Individuality Within Relationship

One of the keys to our peaceful and joyful way of relating is that we accept and respect each other as two separate absolutely unique individuals. We do not confuse our identities, which is a common occurrence in many relationships. As we practice being in the present with each other, we are more apt to experience what is actually there, rather than something we have created in our minds.
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