MAUDE: The heat has been unusually excessive here (yes, climate change) and after a while it leads to everyone feeling a bit cranky. This irritability, something that rarely pops its head up between Phil and me, had us at odds …
How You Solve Disagreements in Your Relationships by Looking at Values Read more »
“When you love someone, the best thing you can offer is your presence. How can you love if you are not there?” Thich Nhat Hanh All relationships are more fruitful and more harmonious when you can feel the presence of …
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Last week we celebrated our wedding anniversary by going up to Scotts Valley and visiting the Redwoods. We stayed in a great AirBnB set apart on a lovely big property in the woods and had a wonderful four days. On …
Why You Benefit From Both Separation and Connection in Your Relationships Read more »
A friend of mine was living with a man who traveled regularly for work. Whenever he returned home, there was a strange disconnect in the air for a day or so. It was only after they separated that she discovered …
You Need to Accept Each Other and Look for Values Without Projections Read more »
We have often discussed core values and how they are critical to any successful relationships: partnerships, friendships, mates. If you understand what your basic and fundamental ones are, your deal breakers, and spend time exploring them, this will become your …
What Important Core Values Underlie Your Relationship Wants And Needs? Read more »
MAUDE: When I first came to Santa Barbara, over forty years ago, my husband (at the time) and I had the address of only one person to make contact with. We had been given his address because we shared a …
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Our thanks to Lawrence and Rita Gelber at https://www.ideclareworldpeace.org/
How am I coping? How are you coping? The information, the news, the images and statistics just keeping coming and changing, and my head is often swirling. As Phil shared last week, we always write from our direct experience of …
Life Will Never Be The Same–What Do I Do About It? Read more »
Valentine’s Day is at the end of this week and we have been reflecting on what we would like to share about this day that’s dedicated to love and the celebration of relationships. I love celebrating any and everything, and …
Life has been particularly full and interesting lately. We’ve been working (and playing) to create and shape the workshop that we are offering in a few weeks. As is often the case when we create something together, we are also …
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