How To Fix The World Through Our Relationships

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We write our blogs by first jamming on an idea, and this week, we’re offering the conversation we had:

MAUDE: For our blog topic for this coming week, I’ve been thinking about the importance of peace in relationships, and how what we share in our blogs are methods of having this experience. I’d like to talk about why this is so important. The reason this is so important is that once you experience something, you know what it feels like. You basically know how to get there, because, you know what it is. You know where it is in terms of behavior, in terms of thoughts, in terms of vibrational resonance; you know. The more you have this experience of peace, the visceral experience of it, the living experience of it, the more you will be attracted to it. It is such an exquisite sensation, such an exquisite way of being, that it’s very attractive. It has a pull to go in that direction. And the more you experience this, the more you know the path to get to that place, to that experience. So, if you can deal with your relationships, with your encounters, especially starting with your close ones, if you can develop more and more, the experience of peace in the interaction with another, then you are changing yourself and as you do this, you begin to change everything around you.

PHIL: I think we also need to discuss looking at how you feel, as well as what the words are. People have a whole verbal part that is language and really useful, but it sits on top of an earlier quite competent non-verbal self, and we’ve only had language for 100,000 years. So we need to pay attention to the experience as well as the words about it. It is from recognizing the feeling of peace that we find the way and begin to recognize the path to get there.

There’s a whole issue of how your feelings are like a windscreen smeared with your upbringing, your ideas about what should and shouldn’t be, your ideas about power and gender and all sorts of things in the world. So when you see flaws and disagreements and whatever, they are as likely to be your smeared windscreen as not. But once you put into practice the methods we share for experiencing peace, and actually letting in the experience of peace, the strength of this experience, these feelings, will begin to replace old and learned patterns for something much more powerful.

MAUDE: Yes, isn’t that what this blog is about? Spreading peace one relationship at a time, right? Our experience has led us to be able to find words and images to talk about it, which we hope will kindle people’s recognition, interest or desire to experience it, or try that if they haven’t, or to emphasize it. I find that when I’m talking with people after they have read a blog, they recognize some part of it at the very least. They recognize it as truth, something that they feel that they can take into their life and try to live it. There’s a recognition of something that brings out the thought, “Okay, let me take this into my experiences and see what I could do with that to be able to handle something I’m trying to handle or have that experience of peaceful interaction with this person, whoever they are, or the situation and within myself, you know?” There’s a resonance with truth.The more you have the experience of peace, the more you will be attracted to it #quote #peace Click To Tweet

PHIL: Yes, I would like to say more about how that happens and that is that when you are in a state of peace or really when you’re in a state of anything, the people you are close to who look at you, who interact with you, can see it, whether it’s the fact that you’ve got a cold or you’re hungover or you’re down, or you’re at peace. And so the experience of being in the presence of someone who is at peace with themselves is a distinct experience. But the thing with experiences like this is that they’re not usually talked about. So when you run into someone and you feel good in some way about the contact, maybe you didn’t label it as “This person is peaceful”. It applies the other way around, too; when you are at peace, that is the vibe you are giving out to other people. How do you look at, actually experience, and become aware of the nonverbal aspects of yourself or another?

MAUDE: I want to talk about why that experience is of value and of importance. I was thinking of writing about why it’s important and how powerful it can be and how it could change everything if people start by really dedicating themselves to having peaceful relationships, finding all these ways, trying all these ideas, having the intention and belief and desire to find peacefulness within. When you actually experience it, it’s exquisite and it has all this attraction. If you have like an army of people experiencing peace in all of their important relationships, what that does inside them will make them able to be a force in the world. And that is what the world needs now.

PHIL: Yes, it’s so important to have and recognize what peace feels like. The experience of peace is something that many people don’t recognize, in the same way that you don’t see something until it’s pointed out:

“I can’t find my keys.”
“They’re on the table.”
“They are? I looked there twice already.”

MAUDE: So often, when people think of peace it’s mostly intellectual, they have ideas and concepts about it, right? They don’t actually have the experience of it. And so they have all these odd thoughts. Some people think peace is the absence of stuff, or it might be boring because peace is when nothing is happening. There are images, ideas, and concepts about peace that are coming from your mind. That’s a very different thing. And that’s maybe where this connects; when you’re having an experience of peace where you feel it with your whole body and your whole mind it’s full on, it fills your presence.

In the moment of really being there, that’s what is happening is peace. It’s overriding; you know and you feel it. There’s no question about it when it’s happening. And that’s maybe how that connects to this part. How do you know the way you go from these ideas and concepts and thoughts about what peace is to the feeling and knowing of it?

PHIL: I had this imagery of what knowing peace is about. It’s key to this whole thing; making it a power in the world; making it a force to change an individual’s life and experience, and their relationships and thereby slowly actually spread that outward. It’s the movement from ideas and concepts and images and intellectualizations of peace to the experience of it, the feeling of it, the knowing of that. And that’s where the whole non-verbal thing comes in. You feel it with your entirety and it fills up with what is. It’s not an idea or a thought, or a concept or an image. It’s a reality.

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