Successful Relationships Reading Corner
We wrote this week about different aspects of having peaceful relationships. Here are some previous articles of ours about such aspects.
How Being Positive Promotes Healthy Relationships “Where you put your attention can often change your entire experience of what is happening. We recently read an article in the New York Times entitled “Turning Negative Thinkers Into Positive Ones,” and found it touched on this issue in a most interesting way. In the article the author shares some new studies that show that even with just a few weeks of compassionate mindfulness training, the participants were able to have a much higher degree of positive response.”
Why is it Important not to Focus on Relationship Differences? “Each of us is a unique and essentially different person. We have established a relationship of trust which enables us to be open, undefended and sharing with each other. This is based on the fact that each of us is respected and accepted in our separate personhood. We each want the best for each other and want to support each other’s growth and fulfillment. That does not include changing, rearranging or directing each other. What we do not do is see the other in terms of ourselves or as an extension of ourselves. If one of us does or says something, it is heard and related to as an expression of that person. We are not comparing or looking at sameness or difference.”
The Importance of Authenticity in Your Relationship “Genuine. Real. Authentic. We know what this means for a Coach handbag or a Craftsman socket set, but what does it mean for a person? There’s no label, certificate, hologram or stitching you can check, so how do you determine that a person is authentic? An authentic person is someone who is who they say they are. They aren’t pretending to be somebody different.”