We all want to be in a great relationship, but so often, what at first seems wonderful doesn’t pan out. Here’s how to make sure you’re in a relationship that will work in the long run. Don’t try to control …
One-third. That’s the weekly squabbling rate according to a poll released last month. I’m not surprised, just saddened, because it doesn’t have to be like this. I like to illustrate this with a simple situation which can stand in for …
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Let me respond to your post about this. When your partner treats you as being a different and separate individual, that gives you several freedoms. One is to act independently of them according to your own desires. It might be something like …
When we come together sexually, we are open to each other. Nothing is hidden, nothing needs to be protected. We pay attention to the other’s sexual energy as much as we do our own. By such openness, we are also …
I just read a very inspiring piece in the NYT entitled “Abundance Without Attachment.” He writes: for those of us blessed to be above poverty, attachment to money is a means-ends confusion. Three practices can help. First, collect experiences, not …
I want to jot down some notes on finding a partner. Three points. Understanding what makes for conflict-free relating provides the basis for what to look for in a partner. You have to walk the walk to attract a like …
Though there may be some people with a direct line to what they truly want, nearly everyone could benefit from knowing better their real desires. What blocks this is layers. A lifetime of layers. A lifetime of being told how …
Our latest article “The Myth of Inevitable Conflict within a Relationship” was just published in Awareness Magazine for May/June 2014. It’s now also available as an audio file.
The other night I remarked on the fact that we never feel in conflict with each other, and that this reflects a choice we’ve both made, just like neither of us watch stock car racing, because we don’t enjoy it. …
Fascinating NYTimes article, I’ll Have What She’s Thinking, on the ability of women to have spontaneous orgasms.