Being In a Hurry
Dear Maude: It was after zooming through Trader Joe’s that you asked “What would life be like if we were never in a hurry?” That was a very illuminating question for me. It brought up images of summer holidays, of …
Author: Phil
Knowing Who You Are
Dear Maude, I wrote about “knowing what your own goals are”, and you wrote “you need to have spent time learning about yourself”, so we’re both acknowledging the importance that knowing yourself has in a successful relationship. The better you …
The Requirements for Acceptance
Choices
Acceptance of the other means letting them do their own thing (pardon my 60’s). If we see them as less skilled or capable than us, the temptation is to chide them or correct them, but these are parental responses. Even …
Get Some Sleep!
Want to have a better relationship? Get a Good Night’s Sleep! That’s the conclusion of two UC Berkely psychologists who followed over 100 couples for nearly 2 years. “Even among relatively good sleepers, a poor night of sleep was associated …
The Myth of Inevitable Conflict Within a Relationship
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Meditation 4
Someone asked on Reddit how to start meditating, so I posted: For me, first thing in the morning, otherwise the day takes over and there’s never any uninterrupted time. I’m lucky enough to work my own schedule, which helps. Sit …
Meditation 3
When sitting, just experience what it is like to sit. The experience of the color red is fundamentally different from its description, from a description of the optical system, from details of its wavelength, how it is generated – in …
Meditation 2
By continually bring attention back to the breath, there comes a point at which the thoughts seem to be flickering around the central column of breath like lightning; there is a sense of something other than thought being there. But …
Meditation 1
There are many sources that cover the mechanics of meditation (for example), but few go into very much detail on what it might produce. This is the first in a series of posts describing my experiences with sitting. I try …
Wholeness
Tonight you’re visiting friends and staying over. The wonderful thing about this night away from you is the sense of enjoying my own company and finding myself whole, just like the sense of wholeness when I’m with you. The thing …