We wrote last week about core values and how they are fundamental to a successful relationship. This week, we want to talk about how to handle the small things in life, like which way the toilet roll goes or the …

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The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them. Thomas Merton Difference represents danger, the …

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Making lists and keeping score are really bad things to do in a relationship. Making lists is something we do in our minds and is always about something we have not communicated to our partner. They often involve expectations that …

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We so often hear people saying, “If you want a successful relationship, you have to work hard at it.” We have friends whose relationships span decades describing their journey as one of having worked hard to keep it going. There …

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Often when people think about the issue of acceptance, they think it is about compromise. Compromise is an act of giving up something to get something else. It assumes that there are different sides, and that one must settle in …

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In our last blogs we’ve been talking about the Spectrum of Acceptance and Core Values which lie at one end of the spectrum. Next on the spectrum are the areas of middle ground. These are places of divergence between you and your …

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Along with a discussion of core values, it is important to talk about The Spectrum of Acceptance. When we talk about successful relationships, we describe actions and values as lying along a spectrum. At one end of this spectrum are your deal …

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In this article, Michael Russer discusses a favorite topic of ours. So many people think that arguing and fighting in a relationship show how much you feel and how important the relationship is to you. They have often been raised in households where …

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