Two sides of Criticism
Criticism is like an arrow: the sender only sees feathers, but the recipient sees a sharp point.
The Lack of Power Struggles Within a Relationship: Can This be Achieved?
I’ve been thinking quite a lot about the discussions we’ve had recently concerning power struggles within a relationship. We’ve been talking about John Gottman’s book “Why Marriages Succeed or Fail“. He seems to have looked at the many couples he …
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Is Conflict Inevitable in Relationships?
We’ve been reading “Why Marriages Succeed or Fail” by John Gottman. After studying hundreds of couples, he concluded that all of them contained conflict, and successfully resolving it was the key to a lasting marriage. We disagree. In the seven-plus …
No Thumbtacks: the 100% Factor
We’re excited because our new article was just published. It’s based on a chapter from our book Secrets of a Successful Relationship Revealed. We hope you’ll feel free to republish or share this with any friends who you think may …
Chance or Choice?
Sometimes I think that we put out such a strong message of how well we relate that people are discouraged and think that we are lucky to be so specially matched. But it’s not what we are, what lottery tickets …
The 100% Factor: The Transformative Moment in a Relationship
There are many factors to success in a relationship. Is there a critical moment, an event, a choice that makes things work? We have found that there is just such a transformative moment. In our relationship, our move towards this …
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My New Article on Relationships
I’m excited to have just published a new article. I’d love your feedback and your comment if you enjoy it. You can find it here.
Wavy Gravy Spreads Peace in the World
Well I’m feeling particularly uplifted today after having watched the Wavy Gravy video – Saint Misbehavin’. Wavy Gravy is a truly inspiring guy, who has found a personal and unique way of doing service and spreading peace in the world. …
Learning to Be Together
We were talking last night, as we often do, about the ease between us. Whether going out, planning the day, working together or relaxing, there is a fluidity, a way of effortlessly choosing a path that works for both of …
Individuality Within Relationship
One of the keys to our peaceful and joyful way of relating is that we accept and respect each other as two separate absolutely unique individuals. We do not confuse our identities, which is a common occurrence in many relationships. …