One of the keys to our peaceful and joyful way of relating is that we accept and respect each other as two separate absolutely unique individuals. We do not confuse our identities, which is a common occurrence in many relationships. …
After all this time I am still mystified about union. There are many clues that our experience is not unique, e.g. “shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh“, but the modern world-view has no …
I was so pleased with the photo of the two children you selected for our article on “How to Make Joint Decisions Without Conflict” , but I wasn’t really sure why. Then it hit me. They were so filled with …
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I agree with you that one of the main reasons for our lack of conflict is that we agree on the ground rules. We have a consonance of meanings and values. That is the bedrock of our relationship. These are …
We wrote about our process without explaining the basis on which it rests. That basis is a shared view of the world – how to treat it and how to deal with it. Morality or ethics, if you will. This …
How do you and your partner handle decision-making and problem-solving? For most people, these activities are often a source of tension and conflict, rather than an opportunity for a creative experience together. These sessions frequently feel like duels over who …
We made another video about the book, but it didn’t feel quite right, so I left it for a couple of weeks. After noticing the other videos had music, but this one didn’t, I added some in the background, and …
Psychology Today ran an article “Are You with the Right Mate?” which has much sage advice on relationships, but like nearly every relationship article, it talks in terms of conflict and negotiation: “Everyone who is married is a difficult spouse.” …
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To live in peace is very simple. In your life, renounce violence. Entirely. It’s a very simple rule. You don’t hit children. If someone strikes you, don’t hit back. Don’t threaten violence. Don’t praise violence. Don’t do acts that support …
I love what you say about our ease in talking because I have had the “we need to talk” speech from so many other people. So what’s the difference? Was I mutated by a bombardment of cosmic rays? No, I …