Meanings and Values – Our Bedrock
I agree with you that one of the main reasons for our lack of conflict is that we agree on the ground rules. We have a consonance of meanings and values. That is the bedrock of our relationship. These are …
A Prerequisite of Our Process
We wrote about our process without explaining the basis on which it rests. That basis is a shared view of the world – how to treat it and how to deal with it. Morality or ethics, if you will. This …
How to Make Joint Decisions Without Conflict
How do you and your partner handle decision-making and problem-solving? For most people, these activities are often a source of tension and conflict, rather than an opportunity for a creative experience together. These sessions frequently feel like duels over who …
New Video Out
We made another video about the book, but it didn’t feel quite right, so I left it for a couple of weeks. After noticing the other videos had music, but this one didn’t, I added some in the background, and …
Not everyone who is married is a difficult spouse
Psychology Today ran an article “Are You with the Right Mate?” which has much sage advice on relationships, but like nearly every relationship article, it talks in terms of conflict and negotiation: “Everyone who is married is a difficult spouse.” …
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Living in Peace
To live in peace is very simple. In your life, renounce violence. Entirely. It’s a very simple rule. You don’t hit children. If someone strikes you, don’t hit back. Don’t threaten violence. Don’t praise violence. Don’t do acts that support …
The Freedom to Say Anything
I love what you say about our ease in talking because I have had the “we need to talk” speech from so many other people. So what’s the difference? Was I mutated by a bombardment of cosmic rays? No, I …
Bliss
We often give cards to each other, so by now we each have a large collection. We looked through them recently, and I particularly liked this one. The card says “Greetings from the State of BLISS“, and the inscription says… …
The Internet Will Enable World Peace
In today’s world, knowledge of others is greatly expanding because of video, social media and the Internet. When people around the world connect, see each other and communicate, they can identify with and recognize the humanity in strangers everywhere. This …
Belated Happy New Year
We made a Happy New Year video — it’s not too late for our wishes to work: We also started tweeting as @PhilAndMaude, so follow us and say Hi.