Successful Relationships Reading Corner
In this week’s blog, we discussed how to find mutuality in your relationship. Here are some articles discussing mutuality from a variety of viewpoints.
When Love Is Kind: Mutuality In Relationships (Tina Tessina is one of our favorite relationship writers; see our Friday feature.) “Many people ask me, “How will I know if I’m in love?” Answer: Anyone who’s in love usually knows it; the real question should be are we mutually in love, or am I wasting my time? If you want to be secure in your primary relationship, knowing how to create mutuality and work together greatly increases the chance that you’ll make it as a couple. When I’m counseling couples on the verge of divorce, it’s amazing how establishing mutuality allows the love to come back.”
Moving Toward A Mutual Vulnerability In Your Relationship! “When thinking about couples in conflict, one can imagine one or both partners feeling hurt and vulnerable. This can at times result in one or both partners wanting to close up and protect themselves from further hurt…the furthest thing from surrendering power. Each partner may have thoughts such as, “I am not letting my guard down” or may be suspicious of what their partner will do next. Sometimes this position of defensiveness may not even be conscious.”
4 Essential Ways to Build Mutuality in Marriage “Have you been flipping through the pages of your wedding photo book, feeling nostalgic about your classic, romantic wedding poses and the sweet moments you had during your big day several years ago? Are you starting to wish things were as rosy as the early years of your marriage? If your marriage is on the rocks, observe your partnership first before you consult a counselor—you may just need to work on mutuality.”