Successful Relationships Reading Corner
This week, we wrote about why sitting on your hurt feelings only makes it worse. Here are some suggestions on what to do to avoid such problems.
Transactional Analysis Theory and Practice “Psychological trading stamps are the currency of transactional ‘rackets’. Escalated feelings of anger, hurt, guilty, scared, inadequacy constitute ‘stamps’; so do feeling stupid, baffled, surprised, righteous or triumphant. Psychological trading stamps are generated by sexualising a racket feeling. Given here is Berne’s list of observations concerning Psychological Trading Stamps in the Hello Book.”
How to Complain to Your Partner “The following might meet the definition of ‘fighting fair rules’ that are often asked of me as a therapist, but I think of them as suggestions for making fighting ‘satisfying’.”
How to Communicate When Something Bothers You “‘Communication is key.’ – Everyone ever, in every book, movie, and real-life situation. That piece of advice is constantly reiterated so why do we have such a hard time communicating about our problems? Why do we bottle things in rather than hash it out? Why do we hate confrontation so much that we would rather stay upset inside and play pretend that everything’s cool?”