Understanding core values and learning what yours are is foundational to creating peaceful harmonious relationships. We differentiate values from wants and needs on a spectrum of ever-increasing importance. This scale starts with wants which are the most ephemeral, moves through needs, and then to values which rarely change.
We are completely undefended with each other because we both know that neither of us is ever going to attack the other. We are not in competition. There is never any energy emanating from a desire for power or dominance.
How do you sustain a long-term relationship, whether it is with your partner, friends or family? With a new relationship, there are whole new areas to explore that can take years, but as time accumulates, you tend to feel that …
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We have been discussing relationship decisions with a few of our friends who are venturing into partnerships, are at the point of “should we live together?”, or are working through some of the complex issues of becoming a couple. We …
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Maude was describing our relationship as having an element of peace, a lack of anxiety; of there never being any distance between us; that we could trust that no weird thing would suddenly appear between us, that no Jeckyll and …
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We’ve been unable to write a new blog this week as we were busy finalizing yesterday’s workshop, so we’re reposting a popular blog from past years. We’ve written a number of blogs on core values and how important it is …
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We experience a conflict-free, peaceful and passionate relationship. We aren’t debating the merits or feasibility of such. We are sharing that this is possible, that it exists. We are quite convinced that this experience is available and applicable to most …
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PHIL: So after several weeks of coughing and night sweats in the spare bedroom, we’re finally sleeping together all night again. It feels like a major step back to normality. But in another way, nothing has changed. There is no …
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This week, Maude has been away each night taking care of the grandchildren, and she recently took one of them up to the Bay area for a week. None of this put a ripple in our relationship. We have a …
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When we sit down to write our blogs, we have two main principles we keep in mind. First is that we want to share our personal experience on how we live peacefully in our relationship. Second, is to convey how …
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