Growth and Change in the New Year
Here we are at the end of a very intense and historic year and at the start of a brand new one. Many of us will spend time reflecting on what type of growth and changes we want to implement …
Category: Relationships
Posts about all aspects of relationships
He’s Making a List and Checking it Twice
Everybody wants to have a sense of fairness in their relationship, and many people do this by what we call making lists and keeping score. Maybe you take turns to make dinner, but sometimes your partner is busy and you …
Phil and Maude’s Friday Feature: Dr. Susan Heitler
Today we’re pleased to feature Dr. Susan Heitler. When researching links for our Successful Relationships Reading Corner, we kept picking articles by Dr. Heitler. The first we found was an article she wrote for Psychology Today called “Beware Of Mistaken …
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What Are Core Values, and What Are Yours? Part I
Core values – what exactly are they? They differ from person to person, and if your partner’s values don’t match yours, they will emerge as irreconcilable differences in your most serious arguments. That is why it is so important to …
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We’re All One Family – Let’s Act Like One
Family. Our parents, our children, our siblings. Then there are cousins, aunts, nephews. Perhaps you shared turkey with them last Thursday. Or maybe you are estranged from your relatives, and have made your own family; people you can share your …
How to Talk Turkey Together This Thanksgiving
The only way in which a human being can make some approach to knowing the whole of a subject is by hearing what can be said about it by persons of every variety of opinion and studying all modes in …
Excerpt From Lynelle Paulick’s Radio Show
Lynelle Paulick has a radio show on the local UCSB station on Tuesdays at noon and is hoping to be picked up by KCSB, which has wider So.Cal. coverage. We were on the show last Tuesday and spent a wonderful …
How to Stay Present in a Crisis
You find the car has a flat tire just as you’re about to leave for a doctor’s appointment. You’re house-sitting, you take the trash out and the door slams behind you, locking you out. You are the honoree at an …
Why You Should Celebrate the Differences in Your Relationship
Feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open, and rules are flexible – Virginia Satir In these strange days, where prejudices of all kinds are showing their ugly underbelly …
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Can you Avoid Drama in Your Relationship?
Drama, an all too familiar word in many relationships. “I can’t keep on with this relationship – just too much drama!” “We really love each other, but there is always so much drama. I wish we could find another way.” …