PHIL: The tensions in a relationship can arise from different wants, needs or values. Maslow’s hierarchy of needs is a good starting point for thinking about needs. At the lowest level, there is no compromise: food, air and water are …
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You can have a relationship without arguments. That may sound like a fairy-tale to you, but it’s not, because that is the way we live, and you can, too. We still disagree at times over what to do or what …
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Respect is almost an old fashioned word. We don’t speak of it often. And yet, it is one of the cornerstones of happy loving relationships. It is what we offer when we accept another’s individuality. Not just accepting, but honoring …
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Glass half full. Keep on the sunny side. Think positive. Look on the bright side. There is so much advice urging you to accentuate the positive that it has become clichéd and easy to skip past, but let’s explore why …
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MAUDE: As many of you know, we are offering a course on Transforming Your Relationships. We were recently contacted by someone who wanted to register, but wondered if it would be appropriate. She shared that she is single, although looking …
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Do you believe that in order to have honest and true relationships that you have to fight and suffer and slog through tons of drama? Do you push and shove at each other, glorifying this way of interacting as the …
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Do you want to have relationships full of joy and peace, lacking in fights and arguments? If you do, really do, then it is possible for you to have that experience. Every relationship you have can be permeated by love …
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PHIL: In our book, individuality and acceptance have different chapters, but as we came to put together a course, we found that the two are so intertwined that we needed to put them together into a single session. So today …
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In the past few weeks we have been writing about peace and how it is a visceral, actual reality to be lived and spread. You can find peace like that in your relationships with other people, whether in an existing …
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PHIL: There is a strong emphasis on the primacy of the individual in current culture, whether praised for rugged individualism or panned as the “me” generation, but by focusing so intensely on individuals, we pay less attention to the matrix …
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