Everybody copies each other. People take their cues for how to behave from all around, like a flock of birds that wheel in formation. It’s hard to accept this; everyone has a sense of uniqueness and independence, yet people constantly …
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Since words truly have power, we have decided it’s time to tackle some of the misleading words we are inundated with concerning relationships. We are bombarded with information that tells us relationships inevitably have conflict, that we have to work …
We’ve had a very busy week. Maude had mid-month reports and a flood of uncommon work issues, and Phil took on some programming work, which for him is all-consuming. But we noticed last night that through it all, none of …
We try to write and teach about things that come from our direct experience, rather than from theories of relationships. As often happens, we went to breakfast this Friday morning to choose a blog topic. Maude suggested tone of voice, …
What Overlooked Things are Important in a Successful Relationship Read more »
During an early morning embrace, Phil asked “When does the honeymoon end?” (Just to put this in context, we have been together for 12½ years!) This started a really fun conversation on how the honeymoon phase of a relationship is …
How to Keep Your Relationship in The Honeymoon Phase Read more »
We were recently asked during a podcast interview what factors are important to starting a new kind of relationship, one in which peace reigns and fighting and arguments are absent. Great question, and our first answer is always that you …
The Importance of Belief and Intention in Relationships Read more »
We usually choose a topic, write to it separately and then merge the two voices (see video below.) This week we decided to offer our separate voices so you can see how we write differently, yet share the same understanding. …
Genuine. Real. Authentic. We know what this means for a Coach handbag or a Craftsman socket set, but what does it mean for a person? There’s no label, certificate, hologram or stitching you can check, so how do you determine …
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How do you know if the person you are dating is right for you? If the answer were obvious, there wouldn’t be so many advice columnists. How do you make your way through a fog of conflicting messages? What can …
The other week we quoted Dr. Susan Heitler “Marriage fights, that is, arguing at any level of intensity, reflect a breakdown in partnership. It means you have switched to a stance of being opponents, arguing for yourself and against your …