You find the car has a flat tire just as you’re about to leave for a doctor’s appointment. You’re house-sitting, you take the trash out and the door slams behind you, locking you out. You are the honoree at an …
Feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open, and rules are flexible – Virginia Satir In these strange days, where prejudices of all kinds are showing their ugly underbelly …
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Drama, an all too familiar word in many relationships. “I can’t keep on with this relationship – just too much drama!” “We really love each other, but there is always so much drama. I wish we could find another way.” …
Can you avoid conflict in your relationship? Absolutely! And we don’t mean avoid as in ducking out of the room when it looms. No, we’re talking about negotiating differences without descending into recriminations, counter-attacks, hostility, hurt feelings and battle scars. …
For our 9th wedding anniversary we rented an Airbnb in the California Sierra mountains. We were sitting on the bed, luxuriating in being together in peaceful seclusion, and decided to each write our feelings down. Not surprisingly, although we wrote …
Both of us have lived in intentional communities and one of the rules in both of them (in different countries and languages) was that each member would have to have their own room. Even back then, we were aware of …
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“Are there things we haven’t noticed that go into our sharing of this wonderful and conflict free experience?” asked Phil. We just cruise along, day after day, week after week, without any hint of friction or tension. It’s a wonderful …
A recent study asked people to sit down and make a list of what was most important to them in their life, the things that contributed to their quality of life, and then to write down what activities they did …
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When your partner accepts, acknowledges and appreciates your individuality, it affords you the possibility of attaining true freedom of expression. In order for this to manifest, you have to recognize the opportunities created, and then act on them…. As you …
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Mature love is union under the condition of preserving one’s integrity, one’s individuality…. In love the paradox occurs that two beings become one and yet remain two. Erich Fromm In our interviews with couples, we have found that there is …
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