Meditation 4
Someone asked on Reddit how to start meditating, so I posted: For me, first thing in the morning, otherwise the day takes over and there’s never any uninterrupted time. I’m lucky enough to work my own schedule, which helps. Sit …
Meditation 3
When sitting, just experience what it is like to sit. The experience of the color red is fundamentally different from its description, from a description of the optical system, from details of its wavelength, how it is generated – in …
Meditation 2
By continually bring attention back to the breath, there comes a point at which the thoughts seem to be flickering around the central column of breath like lightning; there is a sense of something other than thought being there. But …
Meditation 1
There are many sources that cover the mechanics of meditation (for example), but few go into very much detail on what it might produce. This is the first in a series of posts describing my experiences with sitting. I try …
Wholeness
Tonight you’re visiting friends and staying over. The wonderful thing about this night away from you is the sense of enjoying my own company and finding myself whole, just like the sense of wholeness when I’m with you. The thing …
Compatibility
The idea that shared interests make a couple compatible is very common: What Mr. Godla shared with Ms. Vignon, which he hadn’t with his first three wives, was “a passion for the field of 18th-century craftsmanship in French decorative arts,” …
Two sides of Criticism
Criticism is like an arrow: the sender only sees feathers, but the recipient sees a sharp point.
The Lack of Power Struggles Within a Relationship: Can This be Achieved?
I’ve been thinking quite a lot about the discussions we’ve had recently concerning power struggles within a relationship. We’ve been talking about John Gottman’s book “Why Marriages Succeed or Fail“. He seems to have looked at the many couples he …
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Is Conflict Inevitable in Relationships?
We’ve been reading “Why Marriages Succeed or Fail” by John Gottman. After studying hundreds of couples, he concluded that all of them contained conflict, and successfully resolving it was the key to a lasting marriage. We disagree. In the seven-plus …
No Thumbtacks: the 100% Factor
We’re excited because our new article was just published. It’s based on a chapter from our book Secrets of a Successful Relationship Revealed. We hope you’ll feel free to republish or share this with any friends who you think may …