PHIL: Easter and Christmas are the only two holidays that Britain and America share. When I moved to this country, the new holidays were ideas with no emotional associations. I’m not big on celebrations, and they still don’t move me …
Find Joy And Peace through Appreciation And Acknowledgment Read more »
MAUDE: What is at the center of your heart, your actions, your decisions? Have you taken a deep dive within to reflect on these questions recently? I am referring to what we call Core Values. We have been surprised during …
Why Are Your Core Values Important for Having Peaceful Relationships? Read more »
PHIL: When you walk around, you’re probably passing judgment on people all the time: what terrible parking; that looks like a fake handbag; he’s ignoring the customers; nice hat; what weird lips. All of the negative ones are about how …
Replace “You’re Wrong” With “I Love You” and See What Happens Read more »
PHIL: We’ve written in the past about white lies, and that while social graces help us all live together harmoniously, within close relationships, they reduce trust, an essential part of a peaceful relationship. I was recently downvoted on Reddit for …
Why Is Your Truth So Important In Relationships? Read more »
MAUDE: An experience I had with Phil recently reminded me how important it is to just be there for another person sometimes. It sounds so simple and so natural. Just be there. And yet, it can mean so much to …
In a Relationship, Sometimes Just Being There is Everything Read more »
PHIL: We write about our relationship because it is so good, and we know that other people could live this way, too. We describe as closely as possible exactly how we are and what we do, rather than drawing on …
What’s That Special Connection in Peaceful Relationships About? Read more »
MAUDE: I was reading our post from last week, and came across this statement, which I find very in sync with what Phil and I were discussing last night as we formulated the topic for this post: “I think we …
Why Peaceful Relationships Start With This One Radical Choice Read more »
PHIL: I have been talking about differences a great deal recently, and that is because it seems to me that differences are the source of friction between people, whether it’s what movie to watch or where to live. Maude and …
A Different Approach to Differences in Relationships Read more »
MAUDE: Phil and I recently got back from two weeks driving through the parks and scenic roads of southern Utah. It was a transformational journey in several ways. One occurred when we stopped at a roadside attraction, or at least …
Why Being Positive is so Powerful in Relationships and in the World Read more »
PHIL: Several lifetimes ago, I shared a house with about a dozen other people. We had a budget and took turns cooking. There were issues like when to clean, what standard of cleanliness, whether contributions should be income-related, and how …
Base Your Relationships On Connection Not Competition Read more »